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2.2 Want…Don’t Want…Want…Don’t WantObjectives1. To discuss a variety of reasons why individuals choose to have or to not have sex2. To discuss the challenges and strategies related to negotiating abstinence or sex inintimate relationshipsAudienceTimeAge: Youth or adults; Sex: Men (with adaptation) or mixed groups; Literacy: AnyLevel; Resources: MediumOne hour and 30 minutesMaterials • Flipchart• MarkersFacilitator’snotes• Resource Sheet 4: Why Men and Women Want to Have SexDuring this activity, some men may be asked to role-play women. This is not alwayseasy for men, and it should be presented as optional (one alternative is to involve themen in a debate based on the scenarios presented, rather than in role-play.). It islikely some men will laugh during the role-playing exercise. It is important tounderstand that some of this laughter might be due to the awkwardness, ordiscomfort men may feel playing the role of women, or seeing other men play therole of women. The facilitator should be sensitive to these responses, and whenappropriate, remind the participants of earlier discussions about gender roles. Thefacilitator should also encourage the men to reflect on why they might respond incertain ways when they see men taking on traditional female roles or characteristics.If the facilitator feels it is more relevant, this activity can be adapted so that thegroup role-plays the negotiation of condom use in an intimate relationship (as aform of preventing STIs and HIV and/or as a form of birth control). Or anyremaining time can be used to role-play other issues, including condom use, planningthe number of children to have, or how to spend household income.Steps 1. Divide the participants into four groups and assign each group a topic ofdiscussion from the table below. Two groups will represent men (M1 and M2), andtwo groups will represent women (W1 and W2).GroupM1M2W1W2Topics of DiscussionReasons why men want to have sex in an intimate relationshipReasons why men do not want to have sex in an intimate relationshipReasons why women want to have sex in an intimate relationshipReasons why women do not want to have sex in an intimaterelationship2. Explain that the groups (or volunteers from each group) will be paired togetherto negotiate abstinence and sex. Allow the groups five to ten minutes to discussand prepare for the negotiations.3. The first negotiation:Group M1 (men who want to have sex) negotiates with Group W2 (women whodo not want to have sex). Ask the group to imagine that the context is an intimaterelationship in which the man wants to have sex, but the woman does not.29