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4. The second negotiation:Group M2 (men who do not want to have sex) negotiates with Group W1(women who want to have sex). The role-play should be conducted in the sameway as above. After negotiating, ask the participants how they felt and what theylearned from the exercise.5. In both cases, the facilitators should write on flipchart paper the most importantarguments, both in favor and against.6. Open up the discussion to the larger group.? Were the role-plays realistic?? How are these negotiations similar to what happens in real life?? What positive communication strategies were used?? What negative communication strategies were used?? What are some other communication strategies that could have been used?? What makes it easier to negotiate abstinence with an intimate partner? Whatmakes it harder?? What happens if the negotiation happens in the heat of the moment, rather thanbefore? Does it become easier or more difficult?? What are the reasons why a woman would want to have sex? To not have sex?(See Resource Sheet 4: Reasons Why Men and Women Have Sex. )? What are the reasons why a man would want to have sex? To not have sex? (SeeResource Sheet 4: Reasons Why Men and Women Have Sex.)? How does a man react if a woman takes the initiative in asking for sex?? Can men ever say no to sex? Why or why not?? Can women ever say no to sex? Why or why not?? Is it fair to pressure someone to have sex? Why or why not?? How can men and women deal with pressure from peers and partners to havesex?? How can this pressure influence someone’s ability to be abstinent or to practicesafer sex? How does this influence the prevention of HIV?? Are certain individual’s rights less respected when it comes to sexual decisionmaking, in terms of gender, age, and class? Why do you think this is?? If the couple decides to have sex, what should they discuss before they have sex?? What have you learned from this exercise? How can you apply this to your ownrelationships?ClosingPeople make decisions about sexual activity throughout their lives. Manyfactors go into making the decision to have or abstain from sex. In the caseof women, the fear of losing their partner, societal expectations, or low selfesteemmight lead them to agree to sex. Among men, the decision to havesex might come from peer or social pressure to prove their manhood.Furthermore, communication styles, emotions, self-esteem, and unequalpower relations all play a role. It is important to be conscious of how thesefactors influence your own and your partner’s desires and decisions. It is alsoimportant to remember that negotiation does not mean winning at all costs,but seeking the best situation for both parties. All individuals have a right to30