ClosingNowadays, with advances in medicine and pharmacological resources and a greaterunderstanding of HIV/AIDS itself, the quality of life of people with HIV/AIDShas increased considerably. This means that PLWHAs can live lives that are similarto the rest of society. For example, they can continue to date, marry, have an activesexual life, bear children, and work.However, PLWHAs often suffer prejudice and discrimination in society and requirespecial health treatments and medications. Above all, they require and want respectand dignity. There are more and more people who have been infected for a longtime and who lead active and productive lives (try to find examples in yourcommunity, country, or region.). They are proof that a life with HIV/AIDS is notone that is “over,” but rather one that “continues.” To this end, it is fundamentalthat you and other people do your part to help build a community that is just andsupportive of all people, including those living with HIV/AIDS.Women are more heavily affected by HIV/AIDS than men. The health care offamily members is only one of women’s many responsibilities . This care is free, butit has a cost! If they are ill themselves or caring for ill people, women cannot dotheir other work. This has a serious impact on the long term well-being of thehousehold. Women bear a burden of guilt, fearing the possibly of infecting theirchildren. Living with the discrimination and stigma increases stress. Care does notend with the death of the person with AIDS. Women are often blamed for nothaving cared for the husband enough. Some are even accused of being a witch.Care of orphans fall on grandmothers and aunts. Women caregivers are often HIVpositivethemselves.Gender roles affect the way men deal with HIV/AIDS. Gender roles can harmthe health and well-being of men living with HIV. Research has shown that menchoose not to get involved in care and support activities because of fears of beingridiculed for doing women’s work. 26 Similarly, gender roles encourage men to viewseeking help as a sign of weakness. This prevents men from seeking counseling andsupport when they are infected and/or ill. This belief also prevents men fromsupporting each other in dealing with HIV/AIDS. These same gender roles alsoincrease the likelihood that men might use alcohol, drugs, or sex to ease feelings ofdespair and fear.Men can play a greater role in reducing the impact of HIV/AIDS. We needto help and challenge men to get more involved in care and support activities. Mencan also talk with the women in their lives about sharing the tasks in the family orhousehold more equally. This would reduce the burden on women. Men have acritical role to play in supporting other men to deal with HIV/AIDS, bothemotionally and practically.26 For instance, in a 1998 UNAIDS study, the authors revealed that in Kyela, Tanzania “male heads of households would wish to domore when their partners fell ill but were curtailed by cultural definitions of maleness and the roles defined which determinemasculinity.” Aggleton, P., & Warwick, I. 1998. A comparative analysis of findings from multisite studies of household and community responses toHIV and AIDS in developing countries. UNAIDS: Geneva.60
Handout 7A: General Life QuestionsAt home:1. How many people live together in your home?2. Do you do any housework?3. What is the atmosphere like in your home?4. How do you relate to the people that live in your home?At school:1. Do you go to school?2. Where do you study?3. What time?4. How many hours a day?5. What do you like most at school?6. What do you like least at school?Dating:1. Do you have a girlfriend (wife)?2. How long have you been going out?3. Do you generally see each other every day?4. Where do you go?5. What do you do together?6. What do you like most about her?7. What do you like the least about your relationship?At work:1. Do you work?2. What do you do?3. How many hours a day? What are your working hours?4. How do you get along with your colleagues?5. What do you expect from your job?With friends:1. When do you meet your friends (morning, afternoon, night)?2. What do you do together?3. Do you have a favorite place to go to (beach, bar, club, street, someone’s house)?4. Do you play any sport together?5. What do you do to have fun?Leisure:1. What are your leisure activities?2. Do you spend any time alone? How much? What do you generally do in this period?3. Do you do any activities by yourself? What? How often?61