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There’s no way around it.
You might think you can work around it. That you wouldn’t stoop to those
levels, or entertain such things; however, it’s very easy to believe that in the
beginning. You have to consider the longterm effects when you ignore things
like attraction and other red flags I’ll discuss further along in the book. You
have to understand you’re setting yourself up for failure and be honest about
your ability to work pass this while you two are together.
It’s my hope, that the plan is be with them for the rest of your life, so can
you really handle that? Can you really handle a lack of attraction with your
partner for the rest of your life? They’re not going to wake up one day and be
“cute” to you. You’re not going to wake up one day and all of a sudden want
them NOW more than ever. It’s not impossible, because people go through a
lot of drastic measures or make certain changes that can affect attraction;
however, you can’t go in expecting that to happen and in most cases, it
doesn’t.
The lack of attraction should not be ignored.
Still, I can hear some of you saying, but looks fade, looks go away. Why
should we be so concerned with attraction and looks? Again, looks are only
physical, while attraction refers to the interest and the like of the entire
package, not just the parts.
Older couples are perfect examples.
Even though their looks may have faded as society sees, when they see
each other they still recognize the subtleties and nuances that made them
beautiful to each other. That’s what fueled the attraction to their partner.
Know that there’s a difference between aging, letting yourself go, and not
having the desire or attraction to someone from the beginning.
Saying looks fade is not an excuse to overlook it.
Money comes and goes, are you going around looking for a broke man
right now? Health fades, are you going to the ER to find a date? No! You’re
not doing any of that, so don’t give me this “looks fade” stuff. The issue is
still impactful to your situation. It doesn’t go away or allow itself to be
overlooked with the belief you’ll still be able to have this happy, glorious,
wonderful relationship, regardless of its absence. You can’t be in denial about
that. You can’t run away from that truth. You have to be honest with yourself
about what you can handle and not try to ignore it simply to appease other
people wanting you in a relationship. Or because you feel your clock is
ticking, you rush and get with a man who’s mediocre or “safe” because you
don’t believe you have time to wait for the “right” guy.
Or …
You don’t trust being with someone you’re overly attracted to, or the guy
you consider “too good looking.” I can’t tell you how many women I come
across who fear being with a really good looking guy.