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expect or desire, it’s going to stir up a lot of negative energy in the
relationship.
You have to be willing to accept that this person is who they show you.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe there are instances where if a man shows you
his vision, shows you effort, and that he’s is putting in work, that’s a
“potential” you can grasp. Although, that’s not his potential you’re dating at
that moment, that’s his character. His character shows you a man of value,
someone you can respect and trust, as well as believe they’ll get to a better
destination. Although, many of you have overlooked character. You held on to
the perception you want to believe he can achieve.
That’s the wrong way to go.
Let him show you who he is and if it doesn’t meet the standard you need
in your life right now, move on. Even if you think, by some chance, he can
get there, now is not the time to be with him. At the very least, you’re still
better off being his friend and not his “play girlfriend.”
#2 – Supporting a Man vs. Sponsoring a Man
The next reason why it is wrong for you to try build a man, and essentially
carry him on your back, is the confusion with supporting a man versus
sponsoring one.
The problem is that your investment in him can create an unhealthy
attachment. I’m sure you’ve experienced situations where you felt as if you
poured into him in some way. Maybe you gave yourself sexually, encouraged
him, or helped him.
You may have even given him money, paid bills, offered favors, or
whatever it was at the time. When you believe you’ve made this investment,
you want a return. Now, you’ve become blinded trying to validate the work
you put in, as well as the time and the effort spent. You’ve lost sight of the
fact he’s not giving you what you need. You’re unhappy and this relationship
isn’t moving in the direction you desire and deserve.
Be mindful of where you place your investment.
Stocks can gain or lose value, and you have to know when to buy or sell.
It’s the same when investing in relationships. If you see it’s not working, you
have to be able to walk away and accept that maybe you purchased bad stock.
That’s the downfall of dating potential, as well as the downfall of trying to
build a man because it’s hard. It’s not easy to let go. The best route is to not
bother with someone who won’t match your effort.
If you're going to pour into him, then you have to be prepared to do these
things without feeling as if you’ve lost when you don't get your desired result.
It’s best to do this in the mode of being a friend.
Being his friend is easier than investing. When you invest, it falls under
the dynamic of a romantic relationship. In that instance, your investment goes