427993469-The-Man-That-God-has-for-You

approach while you’re dating or getting to know someone, you hold back.
You don’t show much interest, take initiative, make a mutual effort to grow
and nurture the relationship, or discover if there’s a deep and genuine
connection.
So now, your wall is up because that’s essentially what you do when you
hold back. You restrict your ability to love and receive love, stunt the growth
and kill the potential of that relationship. While you’re thinking this man
disappeared or fell back from your life because God removed him, more than
likely it’s because you pushed him away. It’s easier for a man to chase lust,
than it is for him to chase love.
What do I mean by that?
When we lust after someone, those reservations, the resistance, the walls
aren’t going to faze that man much. Why? He’s locked in on the desire, his
selfishness to fulfill whatever conquest he has in mind. He has a goal he’s
trying to achieve and your resistance won’t stop that. However, when he is
truly into you and real feelings are involved, now your resistance gives him
pause. It makes him scared, feel insecure, and question if you’re really into
him.
As much as you may not want to believe it, men get played too. They may
not get played as much as women, but way more than you realize. In light of
this, a lot of men approach things cautiously and when you start to hold back,
you’ve thrown up a red flag. Eventually, he’ll walk away because he doesn’t
want to deal with it, or it hurts too much to try to push pass it.
This isn’t to say the man wasn’t removed based on your request to God, or
that every man who’s walked away was a result of being pushed away. Nor
does the man's unwillingness to let you go mean he is the man for you. I just
want you to understand that this approach of asking God to remove certain
men from your life can lead you to pushing away the man who you can
potentially have a great relationship with. Again, if he has genuine interest,
he’s more sensitive to what is occurring in the situation. This will cause him
to hold back because you are. If you want to expose a man’s true intentions,
then you have to be genuine about yours.
How can you find out if his feelings are real, when you’re not being real
with how you feel?
It doesn’t work like that.
Simply relying on God to remove a man is not the way to do it. The better
approach is to ask God should you be dealing with this man, is he for you,
and how should you proceed? The key words I’m using focuses on you asking
for direction on how to navigate the situation. This goes back to what I said
before, you have to come to God ready to listen. You aren’t there to only
make a petition or vent. You come to Him to ask for direction, listen, and then
be obedient to what you’re told.