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starts to wear you down and you don’t want to deal with it.
Again, I get it.
Your Clock is Ticking
The clock ticking is relative because many women don’t believe there’s a
particular age that signifies a “clock”; however, I’ve heard women in their
early 20s talk about it, the same as a woman in her 30s or mid-40s. It all
depends on the person and where they believe they should be at that point in
their life. Whatever the timeframe or age limit, a lot of women grew up
knowing when they wanted to be married and have children. You’ve set a
certain standard, so now when you reach that personal measuring stick, you
start to feel the pressure, as well as a bit discouraged and weary. All these
factors start to contribute to you being willing to settle.
Outside Pressure
I grew up with three sisters, one being a twin. I know what outside
pressure looks like. I completely understand it. I’ve seen the pressure put on
my sisters to get married and have kids, as well as the pressure put on myself
as a man. It’s no different.
Still, I get it.
I’ve seen what women deal with and how insensitive some people can be.
Parents, friends, and loved ones wondering why you haven’t found a man yet,
why you have no children, and what’s the hold up; as if you’re purposely
taking longer than you anticipated. They dump all this pressure and
expectations on you, and it’s unfair.
Here’s what happens, in an attempt to make them happy, or shut them up,
it now forces you into the mindset of settling and accepting the next man who
comes along and seems good enough to be with just to get them out of your
ear. You try to force the issue to make it happen, so you settle, but you aren't
happy.
With all that happening (and there’s probably more that I missed), I
empathize with why, even when you know your worth and embrace your
value, it can still occur. I’m sure there’s a point in your life where you settled,
or maybe it’s your current situation, but don’t beat yourself up or be ashamed
about it. I want you to learn and really grasp that as we move forward, settling
can no longer be an option and here’s why.
#1 –You’ll End Up Back at Square One
What do I mean by that?
Quite often, women meet men who appear “good on paper.” Despite the
red flags and the issues that are clear, they move forward believing they can
push through. He’s “good enough,” even though they know, deep inside (that
intuition), he’s not the guy.