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you holding back, or may question your interest when he sees you’re not
really giving yourself to him. He’ll be afraid because to loves someone means
to be vulnerable. As women, you know this. So when he’s vulnerable and
open, and doesn’t see you putting in equal effort or, at least, meeting him
halfway, he’ll pause. The negative thoughts will start and give him reason to
fall back.
This is an absolute truth when it comes to the man who’s genuinely
interested in you.
On the other hand, the man who wants to have fun, views you as someone
to kick it with, or a temporary girlfriend (yes there are men who think like
this), may not care. He only wants you around for the benefits you provide.
Holding back or the willingness to love is not of his concern; however, man
who’s genuinely into you and loves you, will notice the wall you’ve built
immediately. He’ll be more concerned and have reason to question, as well as
pause things. Because he’s more attuned to you, he’ll pick up on it quicker
than the average guy. So when you hold back, have your wall up, shield your
feelings, and refrain from clarity, specifically when he asks what’s going on, it
creates an environment of doubt and insecurity.
Again, it’s vital that you are mindful of the energy you put out and the
impact of you holding back. I’m emphasizing the effects of this behavior
because it will get dismissed, and you’ll see it as not a big deal; however,
there are issues that can arise.
Just because this man is the one God has for you, doesn’t mean he’s going
to scale or withstand your walls; or get through all your issues and problems.
He can’t heal you.
He’ll never be able to get through your walls because he’s human just like
you and I. If the two of you meet when each of you are broken, it will
escalate. There are three key issues you create when you hold back.
Insecurity
If a man doesn’t feel secure, loved, and respected, he’ll not only begin to
question you, he may respond negatively to the block you’ve created. This is
not to excuse any negative behavior or the ways he handles the situation;
however, it may prompt such behaviors as being overprotective, clingy,
screening everything you do, and other ways to gain control.
Because honestly, insecurity is nothing more than an uncertainty and a
lack of control. Remember, some of these men are entering relationships with
baggage, and more times than not, he wasn’t the man you were supposed to
deal with anyway. Or, at the very least, it wasn’t time because he still needed
to address and heal those issues.
Also, secrecy always breeds insecurity. And, yes, a lot of men tend to be
secretive all the time, which is why there are a lot of insecure women in