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They got married and years into the marriage, they’re looking at
themselves in the mirror wondering, who the hell they are, what happened,
and who is the man lying next to them.
Reality smacks you in the face and you realize the relationship is a mess.
Don’t get caught up in who you think you should be. There may be parts
of you that need to evolve or improve, and that’s OK. Embracing this and
allowing it to happen is good and healthy for you and for a relationship.
However, when those parts don’t truly connect with who you really are, you
won’t be able to sustain them, and eventually your true colors will show.
Furthermore, you don’t want to fake enjoying parts of him. We know it’s
best to wait for sex until marriage; however, some of you may have crossed
that line or considered it. I’m using this example because it has a huge impact
on relationships and marriages.
There are more stories than I can count of women who sleep with men, are
not satisfied and act as if everything’s great because they want to get to the
altar. You’ve held on to or chose to believe that this is what you want, so you
act as if you enjoy the sex, as if you’re content with his long hours at work, or
OK with the lack of time he gives you. You deal with all the aspects you’re
not satisfied with and soon enough, you can’t keep it up anymore and the
entire relationship blows up in your face.
This is an example of lacking connection.
You weren’t happy there.
When there’s a connection, you’re at peace with this person. You enjoy
them, you’re comfortable being with them, and you want to be in their
presence. You’re content with them, even with their imperfections. You can
be honest with them about what you need. With a genuine connection, there’s
no need to fake it.
Everything is natural.
Being yourself is key because if you’re not yourself, then who will they
connect to?
I always say you can’t create, nor destroy a genuine connection. There are
people who haven’t seen each other in ten, twenty, or thirty years and when
they get together, it’s as if nothing’s changed, the feelings resurface. Those
genuine feelings can’t be faked or denied. You can fake the chemistry and
tolerate behaviors, or the person. You can choose to ignore it and move along;
however, if the connection isn’t there, it just isn’t.
But you can run away from a connection.
When you’re afraid to be vulnerable, you put up walls and hold back
which can cause the man to do the same. You may believe the wall is there to
protect and guard yourself, but as I mentioned in, God Where Is My Boaz,
guarding your heart is specific to protecting it from fear, anger, negative
energy, and others things that will corrupt or darken it. That’s what you want