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true story<br />
Bex has teamed up with a friend to create the<br />
multi-award nominated podcast and community ‘The<br />
Worst Girl Gang Ever’. They can be found on Instagram,<br />
Facebook, and Apple podcasts, and are working<br />
hard towards breaking the misplaced silence that has<br />
surrounding topics such as miscarriage for so long.<br />
The last few weeks have been challenging<br />
to say the least. As a wedding photographer,<br />
Covid-19 has put paid to my work, while Rob is<br />
out every day working as a tree surgeon. This<br />
space has given my imagination unlimited<br />
boundaries, along with limitless possibilities.<br />
I’ve put things in place to prevent myself from<br />
visiting dark places in my mind. The social<br />
media support group has been invaluable, along<br />
with exercise, reading, and writing.<br />
Experiencing this grief during lockdown has<br />
felt very lonely at times. Being unable to hug,<br />
touch, hold and be held by my closest friends in<br />
a time of extreme grief, has felt alien and wrong.<br />
It added a new depth to the sadness of losing<br />
our baby. It showed me how important human<br />
OUR EXPERT SAYS<br />
Bex’s heartbreaking story emanates strength<br />
as she allows herself to connect with the pain<br />
– as difficult as that may be. She speaks with<br />
authenticity and openness, shining a light on<br />
a taboo topic. It’s impossible to be prepared<br />
for this kind of grief, and the process of<br />
loss must be experienced for the pain to be<br />
The hurt of losing a baby is<br />
inescapable and unbearable<br />
contact is, something I’d taken for granted all<br />
of my life. I realised that when you experience<br />
trauma, you look for it; that contact, that<br />
connection, that comfort in touch.<br />
But lockdown has also given us the space and<br />
time we needed to come to terms with what<br />
has happened, to cry without inhibition or time<br />
restraints, to lock ourselves away and begin the<br />
healing process, and to continue to love each<br />
other in the quiet peace of a world that has been<br />
put on pause.<br />
less present over time. Bex courageously<br />
connects with people online, and in doing<br />
so is able to continue her process<br />
of healing, while admirably<br />
helping others.<br />
Rav Sekhon | BA MA MBACP (Accred)<br />
Counsellor and psychotherapist<br />
happiful.com | <strong>April</strong> <strong>2021</strong> | 59
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