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Psychology<br />
everywhere. Loneliness and<br />
rejection are the issues that<br />
many of my clients struggle<br />
with. A very big thing is not<br />
being able to find a loving<br />
partner. Of course, if you<br />
look deeper, it is never a<br />
problem on its own, rather<br />
the result of many small<br />
difficulties manifesting in<br />
it. In conversations with my<br />
clients we often find that<br />
it is your own attitude that<br />
makes you feel like you are<br />
not accepted or loved. Sometimes<br />
you don‘t even notice<br />
that other people want<br />
to be there for you and may<br />
be interested in more than<br />
just friendship. Often this is<br />
a problem of not accepting<br />
that you could be loved at<br />
all. This naturally creates<br />
problems in relationships. I<br />
think many have already experienced<br />
that a partner had<br />
so many fears or problems<br />
with themselves that the<br />
partnership broke because<br />
of that. On the one hand,<br />
it‘s rejecting yourself, but<br />
also the rejection within the<br />
community that troubles<br />
many.<br />
Last year we shot the<br />
mini-series “Queer4You” for<br />
RBB, where, as part of a gay<br />
team, I specifically helped<br />
people in various areas of<br />
life. Now I‘m shooting “Ganz<br />
Schön <strong>Berlin</strong>” in a similar<br />
format in which a young,<br />
gay man also suffers from<br />
exactly this problem. No<br />
matter where he tries to<br />
get closer, he is simply not<br />
accepted in any community<br />
within the gay scene.<br />
Be it the bears, the leather<br />
guys or the party people,<br />
every community has its<br />
own strict rules by which it<br />
functions. And not everyone<br />
is allowed in. We may pride<br />
ourselves with tolerance,<br />
but this young man has<br />
seen nothing of that yet.<br />
He‘s never even had a boyfriend<br />
and he’s really not<br />
unattractive. Many gay men<br />
suffer a lot from this double<br />
rejection, from society, but<br />
also from their own community.<br />
You have to pretend a lot<br />
to be accepted. On the one<br />
hand, in everyday life and at<br />
work, in order to survive in a<br />
somewhat adjusted manner.<br />
And then in the various<br />
niches in the gay scene,<br />
where you have to adapt to<br />
find friends. For anyone who<br />
is a bit different, this really<br />
is difficult to maneuver. One<br />
solution to this can be to<br />
put your own contentment<br />
first. For many years, I didn‘t<br />
feel I belonged anywhere,<br />
never fit in, was generally<br />
considered ugly and was<br />
heartbroken. So, to this day,<br />
I don‘t feel like I belong to<br />
any gay community. When<br />
everyone rejects you, it can<br />
be very destructive. But you<br />
can turn it around and value<br />
it as absolute freedom. If<br />
you don‘t fit in anywhere,<br />
you don‘t have to adapt anywhere.<br />
You can decide who<br />
you are for yourself. And<br />
when you get to that point,<br />
the people who are a match<br />
also come into your life. And<br />
they stay. So rejection also<br />
bears the opportunity for<br />
personal development and<br />
freedom.<br />
Interview: Torsten Schwick<br />
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