Walking together: Healing and hope for Colombian refugees

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After a traumatic incident, the process is the same, only stronger, and “pulling oneself together” may not
be easy to do. Depending on how much attention is paid to trauma healing, the effects of the trauma
may linger in unhealthy ways. (see previous pages as well as appendix #3). Or a person may be doing
all right until they bump up against something that is similar to what was present during the original
event (a trigger). It could be a smell, a particular kind of touch, hearing or seeing something that “triggers”
the trauma memory, or an emotion or feeling similar to the initially traumatic one (like loss of control or
shame). Suddenly, the instinctual and emotional brain (limbic system and brain stem) take over. A lot of
energy is present. It can feel like the trauma event is happening all over again. This is called a flashback.
Some trauma survivors may have flashbacks frequently, others just once or not at all, while others may
just experience a sense of disease, depression, or anxiety.
If members of the refugee family have been experiencing flashbacks, let them know that flashbacks
are a common part of the reaction to trauma. Explain that they are a normal response to an abnormal
situation just as bleeding is a normal response to getting cut, or pain is a normal response to a broken
leg. Reassure them that flashbacks are an indicator that their body is working properly to protect itself
- by remembering what happened, the body is on alert, ready in case it ever happens again. A key
component of trauma is loss of control. Let them know that there are things they can do to help. For
instance, it is often helpful to do some or all of the following after experiencing a flashback:
doing other forms of exercise, deep breathing, allowing their body to shake, talking to
someone safe, crying or dancing.
and feel.
blue.
EFFECTS OF REFUGEE TRAUMA ON THE FAMILY
The traumas and stresses inherent in the refugee journey can have a profound impact on the family unit.
Even after families arrive to safety in Canada, the effects of the traumatic situations they experienced
can and do affect family dynamics. In addition, the process of adapting to a new culture, community and
language can influence refugee family life. Family break up is commonly seen among Colombian refugee
families in Canada, just as it is among internally displaced families in Colombia. This is not necessarily
because these were unstable families to begin with, but more a result of the stress that surviving trauma,
undergoing major life transitions and adapting to a new context brings on the family structure. Being
aware of the potential challenges that refugee families will face upon resettlement will help your church
prepare to offer support, counsel and orientation to the family as they navigate the new dynamics and
challenges that greet them as they begin life in Canada.