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Abstract Thought #22<br />
By: Jonny Bird / Here’s Jonny<br />
If you didn’t mean it, then you shouldn’t have<br />
said it.<br />
“Relationships can be tricky! It doesn’t matter<br />
if they are friendships, love affairs, or work<br />
relationships.<br />
Sometimes things just flow along like a lazy river, but other times,<br />
under pressure, they can get complicated. Under pressure, our brains<br />
sometimes turn off, and we say stupid stuff!<br />
In the heat of the moment, we say many things, not all kind or<br />
truthful. They just come out, sometimes, without warning. Through<br />
fear, anger, or misunderstanding, the truth can become a clouded mess.<br />
Then what? Well, there are several options.<br />
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Option one would be to cover the lie with more lies and double<br />
down on the hurtful words. Once the ball begins to roll downhill, the<br />
momentum just continues to carry us.<br />
In fact, with all of that momentum, it becomes more and more<br />
difficult to stop the pattern and reverse course, and the damage it<br />
causes grows. The problem with that is, it gets harder and harder to<br />
remember the truth if you’re not telling the truth.<br />
Option two would be to justify it by qualifying the hurtful words as<br />
“heat of the moment.” “I didn’t really mean it…I was just mad.”<br />
That’s wonderful - if it never happens again! Very few of those<br />
moments of temporary insanity are one-time incidents though, and<br />
predictable patterns develop.<br />
Another option would be to dismiss it as a misinterpretation of the<br />
words said and use obfuscation as a tool. Some folks can get quite<br />
creative with semantics following misspoken words, blaming the<br />
listener for the words heard and not themselves for the words spoken.<br />
“I didn’t really mean that… you heard it wrong,” or: “You’re<br />
blowing it all out of proportion,” again, pointing the finger back at<br />
the listener.<br />
The best option of all, of course, is to honestly identify the words said<br />
and fess up. In the end, the truth usually comes out in most cases, and<br />
it’s always best when the truth comes from the person that spoke the<br />
words they “didn’t mean.” Once you clear the air, don’t do it again!”<br />
Jonny Bird is the entertainment host of all Vegas Voice shows. Have<br />
an idea or suggestion? Contact Jonny via email:birdlandmusic@<br />
hotmail.com
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