Meeting-The-Challenge-Making-a-Difference-Practitioner-Guide
Meeting-The-Challenge-Making-a-Difference-Practitioner-Guide
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Learning points from Chapter 3<br />
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<strong>The</strong> child or baby will be affected by poor quality or abusive<br />
care, but the child’s temperament may also affect the way they<br />
are treated by others.<br />
Experiences in childhood which are harmful may take the<br />
form of extreme and traumatic events, or more apparently<br />
low-key negative experiences repeated regularly over a long<br />
period of time.<br />
Different cultures and at different times in history people have<br />
had different ideas about the best way to treat children. From<br />
observing the lives of people with personality disorder, we now<br />
have a clearer idea of the kinds of experiences that can be<br />
harmful, and the kinds of things that help children to develop<br />
flexible, resilient personalities.<br />
Having a caregiver in childhood who attended to and thought<br />
about what we were feeling and experiencing, helps us to<br />
develop a reliable ability to think about our own emotions and<br />
those of others.<br />
For some people, biological vulnerability, experiences in relation<br />
to caregivers, trauma and social disadvantage, add up to<br />
create a path towards personality disorder.<br />
Good experiences in childhood in relation to key figures –<br />
teachers, parents, grandparents – can do a lot to build good<br />
attachment patterns and resilience.<br />
Someone who has had lifelong problems may not be looking to<br />
‘recover’ their previous functioning, but will be wanting to<br />
explore new ways of being,‘discovery’ not ‘ recovery’.<br />
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