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PRACTICAL GUIDANCE<br />
THERE ARE MANY REASONS<br />
WHY PEOPLE SELF-HARM;<br />
HERE IS A SMALL SAMPLE<br />
OF EXPLANATIONS:<br />
• To get bad feelings ‘out’<br />
of the body (through<br />
bleeding or vomiting,<br />
for example).<br />
• To help the person feel<br />
in control if they are<br />
struggling with feeling<br />
trapped, desperate<br />
and powerless, or out<br />
of control.<br />
• To give a concrete form<br />
to emotional pain.<br />
• To make the person feel<br />
alive when they feel<br />
‘dead’ or numb.<br />
• To relieve the tension of<br />
lots of pent up emotion,<br />
like anger or hurt.<br />
• To engage people’s<br />
concern or to provoke<br />
a response.<br />
• To bring the person into<br />
the present when they<br />
feel lost in bad memories<br />
of the past.<br />
• To protest about how<br />
they are being treated.<br />
• To punish him or herself,<br />
or others.<br />
“When I was self-harming or suicidal, although I may<br />
not have realised it at that time, it was a call for help.<br />
I just wanted someone to care for me and love me<br />
and not to treat me like I was trouble and meaningless.<br />
When people used to say I was ‘attention seeking’<br />
they used to say it like I was being bad but I was<br />
attention seeking because no-one ever paid me any<br />
attention or cared for me.”<br />
You can see that it would be a mistake to put forward any one<br />
reason why people self-harm. <strong>The</strong>re are many reasons and<br />
sometimes more than one reason will be operating at once. <strong>The</strong><br />
important message is to be curious about what has led a<br />
particular individual to do this at this particular time.<br />
Responding to self harm<br />
One of the things that gets in the way of workers responding<br />
compassionately to someone who has self-harmed is that it can<br />
make us feel angry that someone has done this to themselves,<br />
particularly when it may be our job to treat people who have<br />
suffered through accidents or illness. <strong>The</strong> person who harms<br />
themself seems to be making our job more difficult. But they are<br />
suffering too. No-one does this to themselves if they feel they can<br />
express themselves or get what they need in other ways.<br />
Self-harm may also make us feel disgust, particularly when<br />
someone has done something extreme. <strong>The</strong>y may be very cut off<br />
from their feelings and feeling very little at that moment, but we<br />
feel the shock of the injury they have inflicted. It can sometimes<br />
feel like an assault on our own body.<br />
At times someone self-harming can leave staff feeling very<br />
anxious. We feel frightened that the injury is life-threatening, or<br />
that it signals that the person is at risk of suicide, or we are not<br />
sure what they may do next.<br />
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