Meeting-The-Challenge-Making-a-Difference-Practitioner-Guide
Meeting-The-Challenge-Making-a-Difference-Practitioner-Guide
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PRACTICAL GUIDANCE<br />
We all know that this work can be rewarding, engaging, often<br />
moving, sometimes funny, and ultimately very worthwhile. But<br />
personality difficulties shape how a person relates to others,<br />
and so the relationship between a worker and service user can<br />
be complicated. Because people with personality disorders have<br />
often had unhappy, difficult or traumatic experiences with<br />
those who were meant to care for them in childhood, they may<br />
be wary of people who try to help them in adulthood. This poses<br />
particular challenges for frontline staff who work with them.<br />
On first impression,<br />
a service user who attracts<br />
a diagnosis of personality<br />
disorder may appear to reject<br />
help, or to be intent on harming<br />
him/herself or another person.<br />
In fact, the service user who<br />
appears to reject help may be<br />
communicating that in her/his<br />
experience, ‘help’ can be<br />
abusive and should be treated<br />
with suspicion. Rejecting help<br />
cannot be taken at face value.<br />
This makes the work demanding<br />
and stressful for staff.<br />
To be skilled at this kind of<br />
work, a person needs to be<br />
emotionally affected by the<br />
work, but being affected by<br />
the work may sometimes mean<br />
that we are overwhelmed,<br />
upset, or do not function as<br />
well at work as we would like<br />
to. This aspect of working with<br />
people means that services<br />
need to be designed to provide<br />
thinking spaces or reflective<br />
forums, where staff can<br />
discuss feelings in relation to<br />
the task, roles and principles<br />
of the service.<br />
Working with people in pain<br />
or distress is painful and<br />
distressing at times. It is not<br />
always easy to admit to the<br />
feelings we may have<br />
towards people we are<br />
meant to be trying to help.<br />
Most frontline staff<br />
(if they are honest) will<br />
have encountered service<br />
users in relation to whom<br />
at times they felt:<br />
• Frustrated.<br />
• Hopeless.<br />
• Confused.<br />
• Anxious.<br />
• Aware of uncomfortable<br />
parallels between the<br />
service user’s life and<br />
their own.<br />
• Guilt that they are not<br />
offering enough.<br />
• Angry and resentful that<br />
the service user seems<br />
ungrateful.<br />
• Guilt – or relief – that their<br />
life is not so troubled as<br />
that of the service user.<br />
Everyone needs time and<br />
space to recognise, and<br />
process what they are feeling<br />
in relation to their work, and in<br />
particular, in relation to service<br />
users who stir up strong<br />
feelings in the worker. This is<br />
rather like digesting a meal:<br />
we need time to chew things<br />
over, reflect on them, come to<br />
terms with them, and take<br />
in and learn from the<br />
important lessons. With help<br />
from others, we can also work<br />
out what are our own issues,<br />
and what might be an<br />
understandable reaction to<br />
the service user’s issues.<br />
<strong>The</strong>re are many ways of<br />
getting this support.<br />
<strong>The</strong> work of trying to<br />
understand these kinds of<br />
feelings can be done in<br />
groups, such as reflective<br />
practice groups or group<br />
supervision, or through<br />
discussions with a supervisor<br />
or colleague.<br />
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