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Be Not Afraid sufferinghonesty –and the willingness to open up about one’sdeepest fears:I kept my concerns about our son’s situation bottled upbecause I was concerned that my wife wasn’t handlingthings. The fact that I didn’t allow her to fully share herworries with me created a lot of tension. She neededsomeone to confide in, someone who could identify withher fears. She needed me.Then came a breakthrough, when I finally stoppedkeeping a wall up between us. I allowed myself to becomevulnerable. I realized that drawing into a shell could ripour marriage apart. We both knew of marriages wherethe pain and struggle that should draw husband and wifecloser together actually did the opposite. Couples weredriven apart by holding their feelings inside, distancingthemselves from one another, and speculating aboutwhat the other one thought or felt.A big part of the challenge was simply dealing withour emotions: the same thing that could make us laughone day would make us totally fall apart the next. Butto admit that you’re just a plain, ordinary, weak person,and that you aren’t coping, and that it’s okay – that is atremendous relief. If you can do that, you no longer feelthe need to deny or suppress your emotions, or to worryif they are abnormal or wrong. If you need to cry, cry.116