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Be Not Afraid losing a BabyICU for two weeks. As a result I never had a chance tosee or hold our little one.Although it’s been twenty-two years, my husband andI still can’t talk about our loss. Both of us carry it with anaching heart. We could tear our hair out that we allowedthis to be done to our little girl. We realize now that thiswas the craziest thing we ever did.From such experiences I have learned how importantit is for parents of stillborn babies to be allowed toacknowledge that their baby did live and does havean eternal soul, no less than a baby who was safelydelivered. In either case, to have the confidence thatGod created these small souls for a purpose can providereassurance even as parents grope to find meaning inthe brevity of their child’s existence. Giving the child aname can also have an important healing effect, as cantalking about the baby with the other children, takingphotos or measuring height and weight, or keepingfootprints – things to remember the child by in futureyears, and to know that his life was not just a dream.Leo Tolstoy, the great Russian novelist, wrote thefollowing after the death of one of his own children:How often have I asked myself, and many ask themselves,“Why do children die?” And I never found an answer.8