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Family Life Is for Women and
Children Only?
Dale Lytton
Rhetoric 102, Theme 6
AMERICANS ARE THE GREATEST "KIDDERS" ON EARTH.
The majority of us wink at dirty politics, pretend to abhor sex, and
hope to get something for nothing. A small minority recognize and de-
cry these contradictions, but even this group usually goes along with the idea
that American life in general is founded on a unit of organization known as
the family. The family may have been the original social unit in America, but
times have changed.
When the forty-hour week became commonplace, Americans (and especial-
ly labor bosses) could boast that finally the worker had enough time to be with
his family. Did he? The mass migration of the middle class to the suburbs
meant that once more man would leave for work at dawn and arrive home
near bedtime. The long weekend (two full days) would allow the family to
play its true role. Really ? With Dad at the golf course, on the lake, or men-
acing all the stray animals in the great outdoors, he could hardly be expected
to assume his designated role at home. Since Mom had canasta'd and P.T.A.'d
during the week, she could be counted upon to be around (around the neigh-
borhood, that is). Invariably, Junior preferred the "Y" or the movies or any-
where else but home.
Americans put a lot of emphasis on the importance of the home—and every-
one from "Kissin' Jim" Folsom to the editors of The Saturday Evening Post
defers to the "family," grasping this mythical idea of domestic unity as gospel
and spoonfeeding it to the people (who, according to the rules, believe any-
thing in print).
Family life for women and children only ? With the exclusion of any mem-
bers of the family, can there be family life ? Hardly ! This is not to say that
the lack of family life is going to bring the walls cracking down on us at any
minute—that is not the problem. The serious question involved is that of
being realistic about the breakdown of the family unit and admitting that the
individual reigns supreme in our structure of society.
And while we're expunging this particular fairy tale about America's glori-
ous family life, let's stop being such great "kidders" and regurgitate some of
the other half-truths we've been so complacently swallowing all these years.
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