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competitors in these situations, various methods will
be established to either allow people into the
conversation or remove them. Forming a circle
with intimate friends is one way to excludes others
from entering. This occurs fairly often in bars and
nightclubs and presents a fairly difficult barrier to
break. A couple might utilize the corner of a sofa as
a barrier against intruders and cut off the open side
with a back turned inwards. This sends a message
to the rest of the room that the couple does not want
to be disturbed. Being aware of such barriers
present in and about a room can give you plenty of
information about the thoughts and feelings as well
as the relationship strengths present.
or while dancing. Women find this sort of exchange
from a man of interest particularly exhilarating. If
touching is allowed to be prolonged or is
reciprocated, it is a great indication that there is
interest. It is fairly easy to dismiss touching as
accidental if one is not consciously aware of its
strength as a positive indicator of interest. Touching
can almost always be construed as a form of
interest.
HAPTIC COMMUNICATION - TOUCH
Haptic communication is the communication that
occurs by touch. It is very important to know how
to touch because it can be construed differently
under different circumstances and can result in
different outcomes. Touch can be used as an
extension of friendship or as a full on assault
depending on how it is delivered. The method and
particulars of the touch also have meaning. For
example, a hug or handshake that last a bit longer
than ordinary can signify intimacy or compassion.
Or comparably, a hug or handshake that is loose or
weak could mean friendship or indifference.
Touching at appropriate times is an excellent way to
gain someone’s attention. For example, it is
generally acceptable to touch a stranger with a slight
poke with two fingers on the shoulder to gain their
attention, but quite something else to come up to a
stranger and stroke their back. It is important to use
touch carefully in the early stages of any
relationship. It’s also important, unless done
tactfully, to allow the woman to be the first to touch
if at all possible. If she is shy, then at least wait for
her to provide signals that touch is welcome.
Accidental touching is a form of flirting.
WHISPERING
Accepting touching or allowing a man to enter into
intimate space is a sure sign of attraction by a woman.
Any space closer than about 18 inches would be
considered an intimate distance. Dave is furthering his
advances by touching Scarlett’s hand which is one of the
first areas a woman will permit a man to touch.
Finding an excuse to touch is a great strategy to
show interest. Touching could result during the
exchanging of an item such as a menu or condiment
Whispering or talking quietly to someone else can
often force people to move into your intimate body
space. If a woman whispers to you, you can take
this to mean that she wants you to come closer and
is attracted to you. If however, she does not like it
when you whisper then this can be taken as a signal
of disinterest. Leaning in to speak to someone else
should yield a similar response from them. It is also
important to monitor her response after the whisper.
Does she move back to her original position by
leaning back in her chair or does she maintain the
proximity? If she initially leans forward, but later
backs away, allow her to do so without continuing
to make further advances because she is indicating
that she is not interested. If you begin to whisper
and she merely begins to shout back that she cannot
hear you, then she is probably not interested.
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