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SECTION 6
USING BODY LANGUAGE TO GAIN THE ADVANTAGE – A FOCUS ON MALE BODY LANGUAGE
MAKING A GOOD IMPRESSION
Often, the lifelong impression we associate with
others occurs after the first two minutes of
interacting. Dressing for status is a good idea. Any
woman interested in a long-term relationship will be
looking for a man who has resources. One way to
show this to the world is to dress the part. In all
likelihood, she will analyze everything that you do
based upon the idea she has made in her first
impression. If you dress nicely then she will take
you to be confident and if you dress for comfort, she
will think you are a fairly relaxed person. If you are
playing the mating game by looking nice you are
giving yourself more leeway. She will dismiss a
few of your negative attributes if you did not make a
good first impression. This leeway might just be the
advantage that you need to succeed.
We also formulate
impressions of women
based on their dress
alone. We feel that
women who dress
provocatively are more
overtly sexual. For
some, this is true, but it
is certainly not true for all. While we can choose
based on looks which women we prefer to
approach, we can also choose our dress to attract a
certain type of woman. Above all else, dress in
what makes you feel most comfortable and
powerful. This will yield the best results. One
might try to dress in clothing that doesn’t reveal too
much, but rather draws attention to what is hidden.
For example, instead of skin tight jeans, which
everyone would agree is far from fashionable, one
might choose something that highlights a hint of the
bicep or the broadness of the shoulders or whatever
other feature that you have worth emphasizing.
It is important to differentiate between arousal and
attraction. Overtly sexual clothing will serve to
arouse interest from the opposite sex, but might not
serve to attract them. Therefore, it is important to
decide how we wish to be perceived. We might
come off as a professional business person with a
suit and tie, and in the right company, this will work
nicely. However in others’ presence, it could come
off as uptight and pompous. Thus, it is important to
dress in a way that suits the type of person we wish
to attract and also the environment. First
impressions are long lasting and difficult to shake.
Your attire will also give off clues as to your ability
to be a long-term desirable partner, as a lover, and
eventually, as a husband or parent.
THE HUMAN ODOR
Despite feeling a little bit awkward in front of the
camera, Dave shows the proper body language. His
feet are shoulder width apart or slightly greater than
shoulder width, his hands are out of his pockets, and he
is not using the bar or wall for support or comfort. He
is saying that he is alright all by himself. The only
thing missing in the photograph is someone to dialogue
with. A buddy or group of women would definitely
complete the picture.
Our natural smell is unique and comes from various
parts of our bodies. Smell comes from sebaceous
glands under the surface of our skin that secrete oily
deposits. Also a source of natural odor are apocrine
glands located in the groin, armpits, mouth, eyelids,
back of the knees, wrists, and palms. These glands
release a chemical called androsterone in men,
which is chemically related to testosterone, the male
sex hormone. These chemicals are naturally
occurring and men who avoid masking them
entirely with cologne, but who are otherwise clean,
will come off as more attractive than those who
dowse themselves liberally with scents. This may
partially explain the theory behind why men
normally sit with their legs spread open since it
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