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EYEBALL ASSAULT
Women are especially turned off by men who
commit “eyeball assault.” Do not be one of those
men. Try not to be too aggressive with your looks.
Women are usually not attracted to this. Try to
resist doing the old “up and down” no matter what
she is wearing. She may be wearing sexy clothing
to get attention but any man who is high in social
rank will not fall head over heels for any woman, no
matter how alluring. Good looking women are
fairly common and easy to come by. What is rare is
a nice personality to go along with the beauty. Men
should play this card against women to test their
true value as a potential mate. You will want to
display to her that you can get any woman you
want. By doing so, you raise yourself to her level
and in turn increase your chances of getting her.
Rather than assault her with your eyes, admire her
in the way that she wants to be. It is painfully
obvious to women when men assault them with
their eyes. They know that you are staring at them
and it is offensive and dehumanizing. Any man
who is truly interested in a woman will have more
tact than to offend her. While you may think that
your glances are incidental, a woman will attach an
emotion to your stares and will be cataloguing them
for future reference. When and if you finally
approach her, she will refer back to the initial
impression that you made on her. Hopefully this
first impression wasn’t of you leering at her from
across the room. Also avoid looking down in
intimidation. Keep your head up and focused on or
about whomever you are talking with. Looking
down is a childish posture and used to submit to
more dominant people.
may increase this to every two to three seconds as
interest develops. Gazing is another special talent
perfected by women and not easily accomplished by
men. A gaze is a non-intrusive gander toward the
opposite sex whereas a stare is a full on assault.
Gazing requires a projection of emotion onto the
subject at whom the gaze is directed. A man who
can master the gaze will be able to bring women
closer to him without using words at all. A gaze is a
sort of admiration of the person receiving it.
ONLY HAVING EYES FOR HER
This is a common mistake perpetuated by almost all
men. While already with a woman, a man
uncontrollably continues to scan the room to check
out other women. While such games can be
effective during an initial meeting and negotiation
between two people not yet in a relationship, it does
nothing to raise value in the eyes of women after
such negotiations are set and a couple is formed.
During a date or relationship, you will want her to
think that you only have eyes for her. You want to
show her that you are monogamous and will give
her and only her all your resources. The last thing
you need to do is give her the impression that you
are interested in other women. By casting your eyes
in the direction of other women it is as if you are
saying that you want your body to be there too,
instead of where it is now. Do not give women that
impression. If you do, then you would be better off
heading in the same direction where you sent your
eyes. At least that will be what the woman you are
with will be thinking (if not telling you).
THE PEEK-A-BOO GAME
Mark is showing some good signs of opening up and
this is causing Julie to open up as well. His palms are
upward and gesturing and this has led Julie to start to play
with her hair as a sign of interest. Mark is still showing a
bit of timidity though with his legs crossed at the ankle.
He’d be better served to have them separated at around
shoulder width. Julie is still not completely open to his
advances which is evident because she has her legs
crossed and her arms are partially crossed as well.
GAZING INSTEAD OF STARING
The best gaze patterns when talking to someone are
those which are composed of short looks with
intervals of three to five seconds in between. You
This technique can be used by both men and
women. Peek-a-boo is played in much the same
way as kids play it, in a slightly more sophisticated
manner. You can do this across a room with another
woman by using objects such as menus, drinking
glasses, or with people walking by. This game, if
done properly, will function to arouse women. It
teases them. It is as if the eyes, when finally
revealed, are made better by their absence. Two
people who are attracted to one another often do this
at a distance. You can imagine two people in a
crowded bar, each having noticed the other. As they
evaluate one another by scanning over them, sooner
or later their eyes will meet. Then someone or
something will break the visual contact between
them. Curiosity will take hold and either the man or
the women will shift to reestablish the sight path
and their eyes will meet again. This form of flirting
is what most people would call love at first sight. It
is a connection that is created with no words at all
and it sets the stage for courtship. Normally the
players of the game will feel a sense of exhilaration
especially when they are caught eye-to-eye. It can
send a shockwave through the player’s bodies and
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