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By putting his hands in his belt, Dave is using a classic
dominant body position. He has his thumbs hooked into his
belt with the remainder of his fingers pointed downward,
drawing attention to his crotch. Susceptible women will fall
for this tactic by looking in this area. Scarlett has fallen for it
and is definitely smitten with Dave.
STEEPLING
When a person steeples (forming a bridge with the
fingers meeting at the fingertips) they are in essence
saying: “I know something you don’t.” If you are to
be completely honest (something that women want)
you should not seem as though you are holding
information away from them. So, in essence, do not
steeple! Steepling is a great move for bosses and
poker players though. The higher you show your
steeple the more confident you are about your
position. Some people even steeple so high that
they have to look through the steeple to see anyone
else. Donald Trump is fairly famous for the steeple
and does it regularly.
This is a half steeple and is more subtle than a full
steeple. The sender of this message is saying that he isn’t
quite as smug and doesn’t know quite as much as someone
with a full steeple, but he still knows more than you. If
you find yourself doing this, stop immediately and move
onto more open and accepting body language such as
palms up or neutral body language such as palms down but
visible.
This is the most subtle form of steepling. It is a relaxed
position and not as offensive to others as the full or half
steeple. It is not an open body posture, but it is still fairly
acceptable.
Dave is doing a full steeple. It is a bridge formed with
the fingers meeting at the fingertips. This body language
says that he knows something that no one else does. It is a
dominant position and you will often see people do this in
business situations. It is generally not a good signal to give
off in dating. The higher the steeple, the greater the affect
it has in convincing people that you are smug or a “knowit-all,”
even if just subconsciously. Some can even go so
far as to look at people through their steeple as their
elbows are propped up on a desk or table.
FULL BODY STEEPLE
If you are in
the habit of
leaning back
and placing
your hands
behind your
head, you
will have to
stop. This is
a dominance
display and can be particularly offensive to people.
Acceptable dominance displays might include
leaning back further in a chair or leaning away from
someone as you speak. Some give-and-take is in
order for dominance displays to be effective.
During an initial meeting dominance displays can
be great to set the tone and to establish some value
in the eyes of a woman but once this connection is
made, it’s best to drop the displays or use them
more tactfully and sparingly.
The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language. 1st Edition, 2008. www.BodyLanguageProject.com Page 57