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naturally and instantly, we can gauge and watch the
evolution of people’s perception of us over time.
body language sometimes difficult to decipher
absolutely.
CONCLUSION
There are four signs of interest in this photograph.
Julie has her neck exposed, she is displaying her wrist,
she is making eye contact and isn’t showing any closed
body positions.
Just as we need to be mindful of positive cues, we
also need to watch for negative cues. Keep an eye
out for what scientists call de-courting skills, where
the overall attentiveness of a person falls over time.
The rapport between two people can change over
the course of just a few minutes.
When it finally comes time to speak, it is essential
to once again ramp up our mindfulness of what is
going on non-verbally since things might change
dramatically. Priority should always be given to
subconscious body language over conscious words.
For example, a woman who otherwise gives off
positive cues and jokingly pushes you off saying,
“get away,” is probably just teasing you and really
does want you to continue to pursue. A woman’s
true intensions are never quite clear, but body
language can help uncover what is hidden to others
and sometimes even to her. Humans operate on so
many different levels and are very complicated.
There is normally always conflict going on in our
minds so we need to expect there to be conflict in
the language we use.
A woman could be subconsciously struggling with
interest and at the same time be in a committed
relationship. Thus, she might give off some positive
cues but be otherwise holding back on others.
Conversely, she might have just come off a serious
relationship and be thinking of the hurt she just
experienced or she might be concerned with giving
off too many signals and coming off too strong. All
these factors will serve as confusion that will leak
from the body. In other situations, women may find
themselves drawn inexplicably to someone who
they would normally find repulsive. Intellectually,
there may exist many reasons to reject someone,
however, subconsciously her mind might find
something appealing. It is this struggle that makes
for a great mix of signals and cues which makes
Women use body language as a means to an end. A
woman’s goal is to have you approach her. On the
other hand, she may wish to send a message of
repulsion. In a relationship, women take the first
crucial step by sending appeals to men to approach
them. You must take the next step. Body language
as it relates to attraction is very strong initially, but
women will not continue to flirt forever. Over time,
if the hint is not taken, she will back away from
signaling, fearing that you are either taken or
disinterested. If you are smart, you will get the hint
on her first try. Women only rarely pursue men and
you will find that as the lines of communication are
opened, the cues of sexual interest such as hair
tossing and preening diminish. These cues wane
over time because their purpose is to bring a couple
together rather than to keep a couple together. Once
a couple is together verbal communication takes
over and the nonverbal sexual body language
becomes less useful. This does not mean that she
has suddenly become disinterested; it just means
that she no longer needs to rely solely on her body
to communicate.
After she signals her interest with nonverbal body
language she will expect that you will approach her
to open a verbal dialogue. She will, at first, stay just
out of arm’s reach. The reason for this is that she
can better assess how valuable she is in your eyes.
The more you are willing to chase, she thinks, the
better off she is and the more secure she can be in
terms of your fidelity and desire for a long-term
relationship. However, if after you start the chase
she begins to use negative body language then think
twice and back off. She may no longer be interested
or you may be moving too quickly. A woman who
is interested in you will rarely give off negative
body language. She may stop giving you positive
body language, but she should rarely present
negative signals.
The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language. 1st Edition, 2008. www.BodyLanguageProject.com Page 39