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THE PLANES OF THE EYES
Keep yourself at eye level if at all possible. When
you elevate yourself, you elevate your power over
someone. If she is sitting, get down there with her.
If she is standing, by all means stand with her. The
point is that you cannot dominate a woman if you
are to attract her in a sexual manner. The idea of
dating and attraction is to break down the barriers of
intimacy between two strangers and avoid displays
of power over one another.
THE HANDSHAKE
When shaking hands, keep this in mind: the best
handshakes last about five seconds, are firm (not
hard), and are made with a dry palm. You might
also add a smile part-way through the handshake.
You can increase your smile toward the end and add
a slight head tilt. When shaking hands, a slight
forward tug, or an increase in the duration of the
handshake can signal attraction. You can also
increase mutual attraction by leaning forward as you
shake hands.
OPEN POSTURE – OPEN MIND
Keeping an open body position is important to
demonstrate a willingness to court since dating
requires an open mind. Palms up, arms uncrossed
and legs not crossed together represent a position of
openness and acceptance. Having an open body is
like having an open mind. Throughout an
interaction your arms should be moving in
synchrony with what you are saying. Your legs
should be parallel or slightly apart, though generally
one leg crossed over the other and bent at 90
degrees is acceptable as an open position. An open
posture also means that you are looking around at
other people or the person you are speaking with
rather than looking downwards or away. An open
posture also means that your clothing is loose and
relaxed, meaning it’s not buttoned completely to the
top unless the environment warrants such a strict
dress code. Removal of a jacket can also signify
openness. With these signals you are demonstrating
acceptance, and that you are a passive threat. The
reverse means you are closed off and unwilling to
be open with another person or their ideas, which
makes for a poor partner. Closed body postures are
often seen by women as a turn-off, although there
are always exceptions to the rule.
This is a very intimate handshake. In performing this
handshake, Dave is pulling Scarlett into him slightly and Scarlett
is cooperating nicely. She has an erect posture, her legs are open,
and she even has her left hand reaching for her lap to steady
herself so she can move into Dave even more. On a first
introduction, things look good for Dave. If one is keen on the
study of body language, they will also notice that she has
puckered her lips, which is a signal that she may be interested in a
kiss at some point throughout the night. Her eyes are also cast
toward his face, and quite likely at his mouth, furthering the
intimacy.
Because Mark’s arms are open instead of crossed, he is able
to use them to appear larger and also to perform random
touches. In this case, his arm is in a position for Julie to
initiate touching as well. Julie’s focus is entirely on Mark,
with eye contact and arms and legs uncrossed.
Researchers have found that dominant people
normally shake hands with the palm facing down.
That is, they like to have the upper hand when it
comes to the handshake. Since the handshake is a
first impression, these connotations can lead to the
belief that a person might have either a dominant or
subordinate personality. This can be good or bad,
and really depends on the woman you wish to
attract. It’s best to have your hand perfectly vertical
when preparing to shake a woman’s.
The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language. 1st Edition, 2008. www.BodyLanguageProject.com Page 58