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could be unconsciously exaggerated by saliva or
lipstick. Conversely, women also signal to men
when they are not available, as we saw previously.
ECHOING AND MIRRORING
When a woman is interested in you she will do as
you do. She will echo or mirror your body
movements. An echo is when a body position is
taken by a man and a woman follows and adopts the
same posture. This may happen some time after the
posture has occurred – hence the name, echo.
Mirroring on the other hand, occurs when a posture
is adopted simultaneously by both people. There
may also be a slight variation in the posture. This
has the same effect as echoing though. If a woman
really likes you, she will develop complete
synchrony with you – the mating dance.
Available women will commonly do what is called
the tap. It is performed by crossing the arms and
then using the index finger to tap the forearm. A
woman will usually do this as she scans the room
and spots someone of interest. She may perform this
in accompaniment with the room-encompassing
glance. If she does this while looking at you, it can
be understood as a desire for you to approach her
and that such an approach would be welcomed. The
tap is like an abbreviated finger motion (as in, “come
here”).
THE PARADE
Available women often carry themselves differently
than those in committed relationships. For example,
they often walk with exaggerated swinging of the
hips, back arched, stomach flat, breasts protruding,
and head held high. You might notice this more the
next time you see it. Often it is quite obvious.
Women signal this way so as to solicit men’s
invitations. This is normally perceived as the “sexy
walk across the room.” Women might do this with
an accentuated roll of the hips drawing attention to
the pelvic region. It could also be accompanied by
a sideways glance and slightly parted wet lips which
This is full on mirroring and a very powerful positive
signal. Notice that each body part reflects what the other
person is doing. Dave might test her interest by
changing his posture and then seeing if she adopts the
same position. It may take a few seconds to occur, in
which case it would constitute “echoing.” If mirroring is
not occurring naturally by the woman, a man could test a
woman’s interest by adopting a similar position as hers
to see if it makes the woman uncomfortable. If she then
quickly changes her position to become dissimilar again,
then naturally, it would indicate disinterest. We like to
seem as different as possible from those we don’t like or
agree with.
When a woman mirrors you, she will usually do so
by only roughly adopting the same body position.
When I say roughly, I mean that she will have some
of the same characteristics of your posture but will
throw in some of her own. If a woman is really
interested she may fully mirror your posture.
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