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forward against a bar or on a table with your elbows<br />
<strong>and</strong> so protecting your chest from exposure.<br />
Another such defensive gesture occurs while sitting<br />
at a table <strong>and</strong> holding a h<strong>and</strong> near your face or<br />
playing or talking through a h<strong>and</strong>. <strong>The</strong>se are all<br />
defensive gestures <strong>and</strong> should be avoided in order to<br />
properly give a sense that you are comfortable with<br />
yourself.<br />
her again <strong>and</strong> watch what happens. Next, try<br />
moving a bit closer to her <strong>and</strong> see if you can get her<br />
to uncross her arms with some subtle eye contact.<br />
Next, cast your eyes toward her as if you are<br />
offering sympathy for whatever bad feelings she is<br />
harboring. <strong>The</strong> final step will be to open her up<br />
with conversation, perhaps asking her about her day<br />
<strong>and</strong> getting to the root of the reason for her closed<br />
body positions. See if by using open postures, you<br />
can get her to drop her negative feelings. You might<br />
even try getting her to mirror your positive<br />
gestures.<br />
You may be surprised to find how easy it is to have<br />
people shake their negative feelings <strong>and</strong> how<br />
flattered they become from the outreach of a<br />
stranger. I can also guarantee that by opening<br />
people up, they will feel more positive <strong>and</strong> will also<br />
attach these positive feelings to you.<br />
Dave is demonstrating how not to hold your drink.<br />
Holding a drink at your chest is inadvertently showing a<br />
defensive position because it blocks the chest. It is akin to<br />
having your arms crossed. Scarlett’s body language is<br />
basically neutral, but she may be giving off signals of<br />
interest by touching her neck.<br />
CONCLUSION<br />
I have outlined many techniques in this section. At<br />
this point in the book you should feel like a new<br />
person. You should be confident that you have the<br />
potential to be in control of social situations <strong>and</strong><br />
have a good sense of women <strong>and</strong> yourself. You now<br />
know what motivates them <strong>and</strong> why they are<br />
motivated the way they are. More importantly, you<br />
should be better able to predict their behavior. You<br />
have a valuable set of tools. Use them. Go out <strong>and</strong><br />
get what you want, whatever it is.<br />
Dave is now showing the proper way to hold a drink. He<br />
is displaying an open body posture by lowering his drink to<br />
his side. He could also put his drink down every once in a<br />
while or permanently <strong>and</strong> use his wits to woo his mate.<br />
OPENING PEOPLE<br />
A really great test of your skills is to try to open up<br />
the most closed person in a room or to open up any<br />
person who shows any closed position at all. Find a<br />
woman who appears awkward <strong>and</strong> closed to the rest<br />
of the room <strong>and</strong> use your body language to open her<br />
up without using words. For example, a woman<br />
whose legs <strong>and</strong> arms are crossed will appear cold,<br />
awkward, <strong>and</strong> disinterested. Try first to send her an<br />
honest <strong>and</strong> open smile while in conversation with<br />
someone else then lower your gaze when eye<br />
contact is met. Check to see what affect this has.<br />
Perhaps she will marvel at the experience <strong>and</strong> avert<br />
her gaze downward as well. See if you can catch<br />
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