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does so in a flirtatious way while maintaining
provocative postures, she may just be playing hardto-get.
If this happens, you are going to have to be
patient. You will want to wait for her to send the
message from her subconscious mind to her
conscious mind. It sometimes takes women a while
to rationalize their interest in a man. People are
really good at deceiving themselves. Almost as
good as they are at deceiving others!
us. Body language that occurs naturally is much
more subtle than what is displayed on film. Thus, I
recommend examining any image meant to explain
body language with this in mind. Not to mention
the fact that when we are interacting with someone
there are many distractions taking place all around
use. It is sometimes very difficult to discern which
cues are useful from those that are simply random.
That’s why looking over the photographs more than
once can help. Repetition will move the cues into a
place in your mind where identifying them will
become second nature, shifting your focus back on
your dialogue.
Do not rush a woman. If she shows signs that she
may not be interested, be patient and take your
time. Give her the space she needs, and in the mean
time instead of always chasing, do some running as
well. Just as women do, allow her to know that you
have some interest in her, but that you also have
some doubts. Match her interest to yours and keep
her guessing so long as she keeps you guessing.
A woman will only signal enough for you to get the
idea. If you miss or ignore the signals then she will
move on because she will assume that you are either
disinterested or taken. If you get the idea and begin
to flirt back she will stop most of her nonverbal
communication because it will have carried out its
main purpose. So make sure you are bringing to
consciousness all her hints and cues as they are
often fleeting and rare. I have tried many of the
techniques in this section and they all work. But do
not take my opinion for it, try them out for
yourself.
Photographs and
video that we
normally see
depicting sexual
body language are
more often than not
exaggerated and
unnatural. It’s clear
to anyone viewing the images that it’s sexual, but
this rarely happens so obviously in real life. In real
life, there are many more variables and our
decisions are continually changing and evolving.
Characters in movies, for example, have predetermined
roles and therefore a female character
who is interested in a male character will
demonstrate body language that will seem overt to
Probably one of the most important points about
body language is that it is additive. One single cue
on its own is not very useful or accurate. Women
adjust their hair and clothing all the time. Some
women are also naturally flirty or have certain
mannerisms that might come across as positive or
even negative body language, but in reality they
could be neither. It is thus very important to keep
track of what, where and how body language is
happening. Cues that occur simultaneously with
other cues paint a more complete picture of interest
or disinterest. Clusters of cues that happen along
with possibly suggestive verbal language should
take great precedent over single, isolated cues.
Quite often neutral body language is also occurring
and represents noise that must be weeded out so that
the focus can be put back on cues that actually
indicate something of significance.
The next time you are in a social situation take the
time to look around you and really bring to
consciousness what is going on. Take note of the
groups of people that have formed, take note of who
is talking to whom, who is uncomfortable, who is
the alpha male and which women are looking for
attention. When speaking with someone directly,
note their breathing rate, listening for calmness,
confidence, or nervousness. Collect as much
information about someone as you can without
listening to a word they speak. Armed with that
information you should be able to predict certain
things about them and hopefully use it to make their
lives and yours more positive and constructive.
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