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SECTION 7
BODY LANGUAGE - A CONCLUSION
Because men and
women are risking a
large amount of pride
on their interactions
with each other, they
often send conflicting
signals. This serves to
protect them from
damage caused by
rejection. You should
never (ever) use
verbal language to
pose the question of
the degree of
attraction a woman
has for you, especially early in a relationship. The
most significant reason for not asking is because it’s
completely unnecessary. It also demands direct and
often risky verbal language in return.
head tilt, but if it is accompanied by crossed arms
then it becomes ambiguous. To be sure that a
woman is really interested in you, you should look
for at least three to four independent signals
simultaneously. You must also make sure that they
are aimed specifically at you with eye contact. Use
the whole body as the display board, not just parts.
Sometimes a woman will send mixed messages
until she can tell whether or not you are interested.
Be the initiator and send some of your own hints
first. She might just follow your lead.
You now have the tools to both read people and also
allow people to read you. Use them! But avoid
coming on overly strong. She will think that you
have nothing better to do, or that you see her as a
queen. Just remember that no queen is attracted to
her peasants.
A woman who is
interested in you is
stuck between two
extremities. One, she
wants to attract you,
and two, she wants a
long-term relationship
(most of the time, at
least). For this reason,
she cannot overtly
display her interest in
you. If a woman
comes off more
forward than others,
she is probably signaling her interest in a short-term
relationship. However, since most women want
more than just a one-night stand, you must expect
them to be somewhat ambiguous with their signals.
Most women are both undecided with their interest
and are also concerned about coming across as
being promiscuous.
You should also note a woman’s sexual body
language both before you talk to her, and after. If
she shows positive signals before you speak with
her but this turns in a negative direction after you
start talking, then she is either unimpressed by the
things you are saying or she was sending the initial
signals to someone else. If, on the other hand, she
sends even stronger positive signals after dialogue is
established then you can bet that she is interested.
Another important aspect of body language is that
women often give off conflicting signals. A woman
can signal interest in a man with eye contact and a
If a woman’s body language does not correspond to
her spoken language, pay more attention to her body
language because it will often be more accurate.
Thus, if she tells you that she is uninterested but
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