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Overall, any motion a woman makes toward a man, such as an extended hand or foot, can be taken in some small way to mean interest. Generally if a woman breaks the barrier that exists between the two of you she is most likely interested. The barrier between two people is defined as the halfway mark. If she is really shy she will only send her eyes with fleeting gazes though. The more extroverted she is, the more obvious she will be with her body language. Gesticulations (using hands in conversation) often increase as the interest of a woman increases as well and the hands will most prominently be moving toward you. Thus, you can expect an interested woman to move her arms more and quicker, as well as in your direction. might also look at how far apart her legs are, as leg spread is also an indicator of interest. Another sign that she likes you and is comfortable around you is the dangling of a shoe on the toes. Want to test this out? Do something that will frighten her, like yell loudly at her or move toward her quickly. Then sit back and notice how quickly she puts her shoe back on! Scarlett is again showing interest with legs crossed toward Dave. She is also very likely to be aroused by what he is saying, or simply by his presence, which is indicated by the fact that she is touching and stroking her neck. She has opened up her body posture by reaching for her glass, and shows strong eye contact, which are all positive. Dave is in good shape here. Scarlet is showing that she wants to move closer to Dave without actually doing so. Can you see why? Her right leg is pointing and extended toward Dave. We point and look in the direction we want our bodies to be. SHOWING INTEREST THROUGH LEG CROSSING Interested women will cross their legs toward you. If a woman is standing, she will use her toes to signal by pointing them toward you. She may even extend a leg in your direction which is a way to shrink separation. If she crosses her legs at the ankle you will have to use other accompanying signs such as open body postures (palms up and uncrossed arms) to determine her interest. If she does not cross her legs at all, then look to see how much of her thigh is exposed. A great degree of thigh exposure is both sexy and a signal of interest. You While sitting, women often cross their legs to display them and to appear more ladylike. The higher she crosses her leg over her thigh, the stronger her interest. She might also add in extra signals such as smiling, playing with her hair or grooming you. Be sure to watch for the leg cross/re-cross. If she crosses and uncrosses her legs rather slowly she is adding more to her display. This is especially the case if she uncrosses and recrosses her legs more frequently in front of you. This has a strong effect because she is allowing the inside of her thigh to be exposed (Sharon Stone, anyone?). The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language. 1st Edition, 2008. www.BodyLanguageProject.com Page 29
tightly pressed against the other making it appear extremely toned. A woman might also then place one hand on her thigh and present additional signals of attention and interest. PIGEON TOES There are two prominent signals of attraction in this photograph. The most obvious is that Scarlett is crossing her legs higher than she normally would. Her right leg is crossed high over her knee with one leg firmly rested on the other. The higher the leg cross, the more interest shown. The second is that she is performing a wrist display by resting her head on her hand. The look on her face leads one to believe that she is not simply doing this because she is bored. When a woman turns her toes inward it suggests interest. It is referred to as “tibial torsion” anatomically. It is a gesture that displays submissiveness and can show that a woman is smitten in your company. She is shrinking up her body and creating a less threatening profile. In contrast, there is the military posture, in which the toes turn outward and the hands are held behind the back. If you see a woman in pigeon toes, you can be sure she is open to an advance. Just monitor what effects your approach has on her. THE POINTING KNEE Tucking one leg under the other when seated can be taken as a sign of interest. Specifically, the knee is bent to allow the foot to be tucked under the opposite thigh. The knee will then be aimed at the person the woman is interested in. It is an informal position signifying relaxation and comfort with the situation. Julie is showing a few signs of interest toward Mark in this situation. Her left leg is tucked under her thigh and she is sitting on it (the pointing knee). The conversation must be going well as this indicates her willingness to stay seated. She is also grooming herself by playing with her hair and is making strong eye contact. Mark’s posture is a mixture of open and closed. He is leaning forward to engage Julie but his hands are crossed over his body. This is an excellent way to keep a woman guessing and induce her to pursue the man instead of always the reverse. This photograph illustrates “tibial torsion.” It is a childish posture. Scarlett’s toes are pointed inward and it shows that she is meek and willing to submit to Dave. It is a way for her to appear smaller and less dominant by shrinking the amount of space her body takes up. She is also looking over a raised shoulder, to a degree, which is another signal of attraction. THE HEAD TILT THE LEG TWINE The leg twine is one of the most appealing sitting positions for women. It occurs when one leg is Women who are really attracted to you, will tilt their head forward and to the side (at about 45 degrees) when they speak with you. Any neck exposure is meant to display attraction. The neck is one of the most private areas of the body because it is so The Body Language Project: Dating, Attraction and Sexual Body Language. 1st Edition, 2008. www.BodyLanguageProject.com Page 30
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Page 18 and 19: SECTION 4 SIGNALS OF FEMALE DISINTE
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Page 22 and 23: Both Mark and Julie are showing tha
Page 24 and 25: Here Dave is in a losing battle wit
Page 26 and 27: Both Dave and Scarlett are showing
Page 28 and 29: could be unconsciously exaggerated
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Page 34 and 35: GROOMING AND PREENING Any grooming
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Page 38 and 39: CHILDLIKE PLAYFULNESS A woman may b
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Page 42 and 43: Drinking in unison and in between t
Page 44 and 45: Julie is performing the neck displa
Page 46 and 47: Scarlett is for the most part displ
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Page 52 and 53: planned. Don’t run about, instead
Page 54 and 55: TONALITY At least 30 percent of wha
Page 56 and 57: EYEBALL ASSAULT Women are especiall
Page 58 and 59: By putting his hands in his belt, D
Page 60 and 61: uncommon to come off as creepy to a
Page 62 and 63: TEASING AND OPPOSITE BODY LANGUAGE
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Page 68 and 69: Here Scarlet has moved directly in
Page 70 and 71: Mark has waited too long to speak t
Page 72 and 73: Mark is making his discomfort evide
Page 74 and 75: It’s a losing battle, Dave! Dave
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Page 78 and 79: REFERENCES Alexander, R.D. 1987. Th
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