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[ LOVE STORY ]<br />
Arranged Marriage made in<br />
Heaven, delivered on Earth<br />
Ram and Veena Buxani are traditionalists; and theirs was a conservative generation that<br />
didn’t talk and think about love like we do these days. When asked to participate in this<br />
‘love story’, their first response was, but ours wasn’t a ‘love marriage’, do we qualify? Being<br />
married for over 42 years is a pretty good qualifier; and a glimpse into their marriage is a<br />
privilege. Men and women chosen carefully for each other by their families, had stereotypical<br />
roles that seemed to form a firm foundation holding a lasting relationship. Their definition<br />
of love needs to be revived today: “Actually, the meaning of love is unconditional concern,<br />
respect and compassion for the other. This is what Veena and I have for each other.”<br />
[ By MOna PaRikh McnichOLaS ]<br />
It was the year 1965. Ram Buxani’s late<br />
elder brother, Hotan felt it was time that<br />
he looked for a wife for his brother. He<br />
felt that after marriage, his younger brother<br />
would be more responsible and focused.<br />
According to Hotan, a man was incomplete<br />
until he is married. It is the woman who<br />
brings meaning and confidence into his life.<br />
After partition the Buxanis had settled down<br />
in Baroda and the obvious choice was to find<br />
a match in their own hometown. “Some girls<br />
or their parents found me too fat,” remembers<br />
Ram, “but there were times, I was the one<br />
who declined an offer.”<br />
After a certain amount of searching, the<br />
family finally found a suitable match for Ram<br />
in Pune. “Many Sindhi families, particularly<br />
from Hyderabad Sindh, where I belonged,<br />
had moved there after partition. So, finding<br />
a girl for me from a good Sindhi family in<br />
this town wasn’t a problem. It was my aunt<br />
from my mother’s side, Pari Sabnani, who<br />
was the matchmaker.”<br />
Ram met Veena just once and said yes.<br />
She was known as Janaki then. Her parents<br />
also called her Hoori, which is derived from<br />
Arabic, meaning a very pretty damsel. “We<br />
Dr Ram Buxani, Executive Vice Chairman of the ITL-Cosmos Group, started working straight after his<br />
metric exams. Always wanting to take his education to a higher level, in 2004 he received his Doctorate from the<br />
University of Washington in the study of, ‘The Governance of Dubai, Role of Tribal Elements in the Management<br />
of the City State’. Veena takes great pride in his many accomplishments and is his biggest fan<br />
saw each other once, but hardly spoke. In<br />
those days parents rarely gave that sort of<br />
exposure to their girls. Veena’s parents were<br />
undecided, but I had mentally concurred<br />
with the feelings of my late elder brother<br />
who had checked out the background of<br />
the family thoroughly, which was the main<br />
consideration in those days. I had work in<br />
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