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Hi! I'm Holokitty Catherine N.X. I'm a 20-year-old computer animation student in southern
California. Also known to my online friends as HolokittyNX, the Feline Tactical Hologram-O-
Doom (1337! ph34r!). I'm originally from Chicago, and miss the snow every day. My
interests...well, they're pretty varied. I like my electronics (PDAs, cell phones, Macs, etc.), I listen
to virtually every form of music from hip-hop to alternative to country, and I can't lay off the junk
food. I'm 5'6, 125 lbs, have dark brown hair and eyes, and think of myself as reasonably cute. I
believe that love and sex are sacred, and I consider it cruel to treat any person's sexual needs as
dirty or deviant. The only wrong is in harming another person or violating their trust.
When I was younger, I was never under the impression that sex was bad or dirty. My mother's
involvement in LGBT culture probably being a big contributing factor. I never thought twice about
touching myself when my private parts felt good. I never thought twice about liking girls. And I
didn't feel bad that one night when I was curled up with my mother and responded to an ordinary
kiss on the forehead by kissing her back on the lips. I'd wanted to for as long as I could remember.
And unfettered by society's presuppositions, I had no more trepidation than anyone going for their
first kiss.
Realizing my attraction to her wasn't a phase she could sidestep, my mother became more open
to the idea of giving me what I wanted. Kissing, then more intimate affection as I became
interested in it. I was not abused, molested, or treated in any way I did not ask to be treated. I am a
sexual being. I always have been a sexual being. My mother loves me as I love and trust her, and
has never taken advantage of me. As far as I am concerned, our relationship is nurturing,
supportive, and completely natural. Far from being sorry or ashamed of my relationship with my
mother, I am grateful to her for her companionship on my path to becoming a complete and
sensual woman instead of a castrated kewpie doll ideal. My experiences with my mother influence
my story writing and my ethics, and I think this is for the best, as I trust no one more than I trust
her. If you are curious about my experiences with my mother, feel free to POLITELY ask me in an
email. Any emails sent to me may be used for my column at the Human Face of Pedophilia. I will
not include your email address at the end of the letter unless you ask me to.
I realize that most adult-child sexual contact is coerced, and I have the same hatred in my heart
for those who force themselves on a child as I do for any rapist. But I personally was never pushed
into anything I did not want. I'm not dumb enough to think adults and parents are all saints who
wouldn't push a kid into sex given the chance. And while I know for a fact that children are sexual
beings (you fooled around when you were younger and you know it), it's not that simple. Even
among adults, we have trouble demonstrating that a person did or didn't coerce another into sex.
Kids have less control over their activities and are fed loads of BS about adults being infallible, so
they're usually more subject to coercion and less likely to complain about it. Legalizing sex for
children requires a more solid legal means for distinguishing between consensual sex and coerced
sex. I'm pretty damned smart and I can't come up with anything like that. Until I do come up with a
way to prevent coercion (or hear of one), I can't support abolishing all age of consent laws. I do
believe that consent should work differently.
It's pretty obvious that more and better sex education is needed in America regardless of when
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