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14. Establish media guidelines as a family (what to watch, read, or listen to; what to avoid; and why). 18. Perform a media inventory in your home (Review movies, Internet use, magazines, books, music and images. Honesty assess if there is anything in your home, car, office, cell phone or computer that could be dangerous for you or members of your family. If there is, discard these items as soon as possible.). 19. Set strict guidelines around gaming, especially online gaming (the pornography and gaming industry are close cousins and work together to groom young/future consumers). 20. Model using appropriate media - walk the talk! 21. Implement some technology-free zones or blocks of time (e.g., during dinner or while driving together). 22. Teach and model empathy and viewing/treating people as whole beings. 23. Install filtering software on computers and keep it current. 24. Activate parental controls on all media devices in your home. 25. Model positive social skills and being present with people. 26. Co-pilot Internet use with young children. 27. Share technological skills and safety tips with one another (children with parents and vice versa). 10
Action Items for Protecting Marriages from Pornography’s Influence 1. Ensure you are unified in your understanding and definition of what pornography is. 2. If you are ever in doubt about the impact a particular behavior or choice will have on your spouse or marriage, ask your partner. The answer usually becomes crystal clear very quickly! 3. Establish an ‘exposure rule’ (e.g., within 24 hours of being accidentally exposed to sexually explicit content, share that experience with your partner and debrief it. Don’t let images fester). 4. Clarify boundaries around contact with members of the opposite sex (e.g., on and offline; social networking sites, work, socially, Church, etc.). 5. Strive to articulate sexual needs and preferences with clarity, sensitivity, respect and maturity. 6. As a couple, develop safety precautions for business/solo travel and honor them (www.cleanhotels.com is a helpful resource for business and family travel). 7. Make your marital friendship and relationship a top priority in your life. 8. Establish media guidelines for your relationship. 9. As a couple, clarify the role and nature of marital intimacy in your relationship. If necessary, seek professional help to negotiate differences that are causing strain on your marriage. 10. Ask questions of one another. For example, questions like: a. When was the first time you were exposed to pornography and what were the circumstances surrounding that exposure? b. Have you ever intentionally sought out sexually explicit material? If yes, when was the last time? c. What are we each doing to protect ourselves from inappropriate media? d. If either one of us ever had an issue with pornography in the future, which steps would we agree to take in order to get help? e. Are there any media triggers/weaknesses that you have that I should be aware of? f. How can we protect our marriage from evil influences? g. What is it like to be married to me? 11
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