Safety Net

Why Counseling?
For those viewing pornography, therapy is an important component of
recovery. Individuals frequently view pornography in part as a coping
mechanism for other problems in life. By finding a qualified therapist that
works well with your personality, individuals can better assess core
issues and triggers that drive them to view pornography. Once these
issues and triggers are identified, therapists can then help support
individuals as they work to replace these addictive habits with healthy
behaviors.
For others closely associated with those viewing pornography, such
as spouses, parents and those in serious dating relationships,
therapy can also be helpful. Many spouses and those in serious dating
relationships express feelings of betrayal and other intense emotions
upon learning of their partners’ behaviors. Parents frequently express
frustration and an inability to effectively handle this issue. Therapy can
provide a safe place to sort through the emotions experienced and
provide a professional perspective in making important decisions. For spouses and those seriously dating, attending
therapy sessions with the person viewing pornography can also be effective.
Finding a qualified counselor
Finding a qualified counselor for pornography and sexual addiction is critical to the recovery process. Genuine
commitment to on-going counseling from a qualified therapist is typically required for a minimum of 12 to 18 months for
those who are addicted. It is also important for those closely impacted by the addiction of another to find qualified
counseling. Since all individuals have unique personalities, however, even a qualified therapist may not be a good fit for
you. It is important to find a therapist that works well with your personality.
The following questions may be helpful in finding a qualified therapist. If after seeing a therapist for 3-6 weeks you are
finding therapy sessions unhelpful, you may consider looking for another therapist that works better with your
personality.
When evaluating a therapist, some important considerations are:
What training has the therapist received in dealing with sexual behaviors and addictions?
Therapists dealing with sexual addiction often need extensive training and education. You may want to ask
the therapist if he or she is a member of a national organization for sexual addiction and if he or she has
received any specific certification or training.
Does the therapist specialize in sexual addiction and how many years of experience do they
have treating these problems?
Good therapists specializing in other psychological problems may not be the best for treating sexual
behavior.
Are counseling services provided to the non-addicted spouse?
Involvement of the non-addicted spouse in therapy is often important for their wellbeing and also that of the
marriage.
Does the therapist or clinic provide group therapy?
Experience has shown that recovery is enhanced when the individuals and couples participate in group
therapy.
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