Safety Net
Safety Net
Safety Net
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Action Items for Protecting Marriages from Pornography’s<br />
Influence<br />
1. Ensure you are unified in your understanding and definition of what pornography<br />
is.<br />
2. If you are ever in doubt about the impact a particular behavior or choice will have<br />
on your spouse or marriage, ask your partner. The answer usually becomes crystal<br />
clear very quickly!<br />
3. Establish an ‘exposure rule’ (e.g., within 24 hours of being accidentally exposed to<br />
sexually explicit content, share that experience with your partner and debrief it. Don’t<br />
let images fester).<br />
4. Clarify boundaries around contact with members of the opposite sex (e.g., on and<br />
offline; social networking sites, work, socially, Church, etc.).<br />
5. Strive to articulate sexual needs and preferences with clarity, sensitivity, respect<br />
and maturity.<br />
6. As a couple, develop safety precautions for business/solo travel and honor them<br />
(www.cleanhotels.com is a helpful resource for business and family travel).<br />
7. Make your marital friendship and relationship a top priority in your life.<br />
8. Establish media guidelines for your relationship.<br />
9. As a couple, clarify the role and nature of marital intimacy in your relationship. If<br />
necessary, seek professional help to negotiate differences that are causing strain on<br />
your marriage.<br />
10. Ask questions of one another. For example, questions like:<br />
a. When was the first time you were exposed to<br />
pornography and what were the circumstances<br />
surrounding that exposure?<br />
b. Have you ever intentionally sought out sexually explicit<br />
material? If yes, when was the last time?<br />
c. What are we each doing to protect ourselves from inappropriate media?<br />
d. If either one of us ever had an issue with pornography in the<br />
future, which steps would we agree to take in order to get help?<br />
e. Are there any media triggers/weaknesses that you have that I should be<br />
aware of?<br />
f. How can we protect our marriage from evil influences?<br />
g. What is it like to be married to me?<br />
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