Safety Net

problem in a safe environment, the shame and guilt begin to dissipate. Likewise, the spouses and other loved ones of
addicts have a need to discuss the problem openly with others.
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Because pornography is so rampant, it is important to
provide training and education even to those who may
not currently be struggling. As pornography is
discussed more openly, individuals will have the
courage to step forward and seek help if needed,
recognize current problems and be better equipped to
handle future problems. Openness does not mean
condoning behavior or lessening consequences. It
means eliminating the secrecy surrounding this
subject and helping people understand that the
problem is widespread and needs to be addressed
openly in an appropriate manner.
White Knuckle Abstinence verses Addiction Recovery
Recovery from pornography addiction is difficult, but definitely attainable. Those who are completely committed to
doing what it takes to find and maintain recovery will be successful. Recovery involves:
Desiring to recover and honestly admitting to others the magnitude of the problem
Becoming educated about the nature of pornography addiction and the recovery process
Creating a safe environment where triggers and temptations are less likely to occur
Continued participation in a 12-Step recovery program
Seeking professional counseling. This will usually include a mixture of individual counseling, couples
therapy, and group counseling (at least eighteen months is typically required)
Seeking spiritual help by counseling with an
ecclesiastical leader
Abstinence is not the same as recovery. Abstinence involves
going a period of time without viewing pornography. Recovery
requires a life-style change and involves relearning healthy
sexuality, resetting unhealthy expectations and establishing
positive patterns of interaction with others. Additionally, recovering
individuals must learn to manage emotions, stress, relationships,
and other factors that underlie their addictive behaviors. They must learn to differentiate between lust and healthy
love.
Just as an alcoholic can never consider himself to be cured, those who are addicted to pornography are always