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Pornography use may eventually lead to divorce.<br />
Statistically, fifty-five percent of divorces are related<br />
to pornography. Nevertheless, a large number of<br />
couples are able to find recovery and healing<br />
through recognition of this addiction and by seeking<br />
appropriate help. Several factors influence the<br />
probability of healing the relationship:<br />
The addict willingly discloses the problem and<br />
Is completely open and honest before he is<br />
caught<br />
The addict chooses to get appropriate help,<br />
including counseling and participation in a<br />
12-Step program rather than assuming he can recover on his own<br />
The couple has realistic expectations. Change takes time and there will usually be relapses. With good<br />
counseling and support, however, these slips become less severe and less frequent<br />
Both the addict and the spouse get the counseling and support they need<br />
Many counselors recommend not making any major life decisions for at least a year. Over time, trust can be rebuilt and<br />
the relationship can heal if both partners are willing to do their part.<br />
For those Struggling with Pornography<br />
Whether you are someone struggling with pornography use or<br />
a loved one of someone who is struggling, you need to find<br />
someone who you can talk honestly and openly with. In addition,<br />
regular meetings with a counselor are strongly recommended.<br />
(See The Basics: Counseling). Healing can begin, both for the<br />
addict and the loved one, when secrecy and shame are<br />
replaced with honesty, openness and humility.<br />
One of the first steps along the pathway to recovery is coming out of hiding and speaking with another trusted<br />
individual about your behavior. Most people find it challenging to tell another about their pornography habits and other<br />
associated behaviors, but until you do, it is unlikely that you will make any real, lasting progress. Given the nature of<br />
addiction, it is generally impossible to actually quit your behavior without the assistance of others. Once you can<br />
admit and talk about the problem, the shame and guilt generally begin to dissipate. There is a peace and self-<br />
acceptance that comes from openly discussing your pornography behavior with other trusted individuals. Consider<br />
honestly discussing your behavior with a spouse, parent, religious leader or serious girlfriend/boyfriend.<br />
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