Safety Net
Safety Net
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Simply put, you have a problem if pornography is negatively impacting your life and you are not<br />
stopping. Many people viewing pornography, like drug users, tell themselves they can stop and their<br />
behavior is not causing problems. However, if you tell yourself that you are not going to look at<br />
pornography anymore and then you find yourself doing it anyway, you probably need help.<br />
Pornography addicts return to thinking about, planning for and participating in secret behaviors that<br />
take priority over other healthy relationships and important activities. If you think you may have a<br />
problem, you likely do.<br />
What do you want? Ask yourself - do I want to be struggling with this problem in ten years, or do I want<br />
to look back on this as a painful learning experience which I haven’t visited for ten years? After you have<br />
decided that recovery is for you, that you truly want to break the chains, the time has come for the next<br />
questions which are closely related to the first: What am I willing to do? How far am I willing to go? In<br />
answering these questions we come to the fundamental question at hand: How does one change from<br />
being addicted to a person firm in recovery with years of sobriety?<br />
What are the Stages of Pornography Addiction?<br />
Pornography addiction is progressive. This means that in order to get the same pleasure or rush,<br />
pornography use has to escalate. Below is the common pattern of escalation<br />
Early exposure. Initial exposure to pictures or provocative material. The exposure<br />
is frequently accidental or may result from general curiosity. The problem begins when the<br />
person deliberately begins viewing pornography.<br />
Addiction. The person keeps returning to pornography. They recognize their<br />
activity as inappropriate, but regardless of what they resolve to do, it becomes a<br />
regular part of their life. The user begins to depend on pornography as their main<br />
source of ‘feeling good.’ The time spent viewing material continues to increase<br />
despite the consequences. Periods of abstinence may be followed by periods of<br />
binging.<br />
Escalation. The person starts to look for more graphic material. The images they<br />
now view might have disgusted them initially. They spend even more time looking<br />
at pornography and thinking about it becomes consuming. They may want their<br />
spouse to “act out” things that they have seen in pornography in their sexual<br />
relationship<br />
Desensitization. Eventually, the person becomes numbed to the effects of the<br />
pornography. They are in denial about their addiction and begin to see pornography and the<br />
sexual acts depicted as “normal” and acceptable. Even the most graphic, degrading<br />
pornography doesn’t excite them anymore. They become desperate to feel the same thrill again<br />
but can’t find it.<br />
Acting out. At this point, addicts make a dangerous jump and start acting out<br />
sexually with other people. Rather than limiting their exposure to images and<br />
experiences on the internet, they begin to act out the sexual fantasies they have<br />
seen. Their acting out may take the form of exhibitionism, voyeurism, promiscuity, strip<br />
clubs, sex with minors, soliciting prostitutes, or rape.<br />
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