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Theorists have recognised that patterns <strong>of</strong> child rearing, be they good or bad, are<br />
passed on from one generation to the next. One would suppose that parents who had<br />
been subjected to abuse as children would be more sympathetic and adopt more<br />
emphatic means in rearing their children. It seems that this is not so, and that parents<br />
tend to use the same disciplinary measures as did their parents. Caffo et al.(1982 :<br />
457) state that abused children tend to become abusing parents, and that many abusing<br />
parents were themselves abused as children. Such parents integrate into their psyche<br />
the mode <strong>of</strong> behaviour <strong>of</strong> their parents which emerges during moments <strong>of</strong> crisis, even<br />
when they have been rationally denied.<br />
Smith (1975 : 45) after reviewing numerous studies, maintains that abusing parents<br />
received the same treatment from their parents during childhood. The stresses and<br />
strains <strong>of</strong> day to day living, coupled with their own early abuse, creates a climate<br />
favourable for abuse. We can conclude from the foregoing that abusing parents were<br />
themselves abused as children and abusing parents tend to unconsciously adopt the<br />
child-rearing practices <strong>of</strong> their own parents.<br />
There is general agreement among researchers that abusing parents were themselves<br />
physically and emotionally abused. According to Main & Goldwyn (1984 : 204) case<br />
histories reveal "a consistent picture <strong>of</strong> aggressive, physically punitive childhood<br />
experiences." Caffo et al. (1982) however, state that not all abused children become<br />
abusing parents. Parents tend to suppress unhappy childhood memories, and if they<br />
are helped to recall these experiences, work through their distress and anger, then they<br />
are able to come to terms with it, and "stop" the generational cycle <strong>of</strong> abuse (Fraiberg<br />
1984 : 214).<br />
(b) Studies pertaining to lack <strong>of</strong> bonding or attachment<br />
Related to what was said above, Vesterdal (1977 : 240) sees child abuse as a<br />
disruption <strong>of</strong> the parent-child relationship which may exist together with any other<br />
psychological state. In a normal relationship, the bond between a mother and a child<br />
is very strong. The child depends on the mother initially to provide its basic needs, i.e.