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The power of stepping out of<br />
your comfort zone…<br />
We all want to feel safe, and secure. But as our columnist<br />
Grace Victory reveals, if life is feeling stagnant, stepping into<br />
the unknown could be both energising, and rewarding<br />
with Grace<br />
If I look back on my almost 30<br />
years of life, there is so much<br />
to be grateful for. But I am<br />
definitely the type of person<br />
who rarely stops to celebrate my<br />
achievements, because when<br />
I’ve accomplished one thing, I<br />
immediately move on to the next.<br />
However, the pattern that I’ve<br />
noticed with my successes –<br />
whether big or small – is that<br />
more often than not, to achieve<br />
whatever I have achieved, I had<br />
to step out of my comfort zone.<br />
And if I’m being totally honest,<br />
sometimes I’m dragged out of my<br />
comfort zone by my therapist, and<br />
sometimes I leap!<br />
Maybe you can relate? It pains<br />
me to admit that while I regard<br />
myself as quite adaptable, there<br />
are certain experiences relating<br />
to my childhood trauma that have<br />
affected my ability to make adult<br />
decisions, and experience growth<br />
in certain areas of my life.<br />
I took me two years to make a<br />
career change, because I simply<br />
wasn’t sure if it was the right thing<br />
to do. I knew I felt stuck and that I<br />
needed a change, but to muster up<br />
the courage to do so... well, it took<br />
me longer than I’d like to admit.<br />
But in other areas of my life, I can<br />
swiftly move on, and alter the<br />
direction of my path.<br />
I guess it’s also dependent on<br />
whether or not I feel in control –<br />
buckle up for some serious truths!<br />
Have I told you about my issues<br />
with control? Not the control<br />
that polices people, or screams<br />
at my boyfriend that he can’t go<br />
out. I’m talking about the kind of<br />
control where if something out of<br />
the ordinary happens during my<br />
usual routine, I will immediately<br />
feel stressed. I used to use food<br />
to feel a sense of calm, because<br />
everything else in my life felt<br />
chaotic. Control, and a person’s<br />
need for it, isn’t always obvious;<br />
sometimes control works in<br />
manipulative and subtle ways, but<br />
the crux is always to feel safe.<br />
Staying within comfort zones<br />
creates a sense of safety and<br />
security, because the box we or<br />
others have placed us in, is what<br />
we’re used to. For nearly all of<br />
us, our comfort zones begin as<br />
children, often residing within<br />
our subconscious. Take playing in<br />
the park. Some toddlers can climb<br />
about, and go down big slides,<br />
without a care in the world, while<br />
Change is full of<br />
vulnerability and<br />
uncertainty, but<br />
without those<br />
things, how will<br />
you ever know<br />
courage?<br />
others will be petrified and stick to<br />
playing in the sandpit. Or perhaps<br />
as a child you were boisterous and<br />
unafraid to try new things, but<br />
growing up, an authority figure<br />
made you feel inferior, so now you<br />
only stick to what you know.<br />
Whatever the reasons may be,<br />
comfort zones may make you feel<br />
safe, but they also play a part in<br />
you feeling stagnant, bored, and<br />
unmotivated.<br />
“A redirection to a new life means<br />
a rejection of your current life” –<br />
you can quote me on that.<br />
Listen, rejection isn’t always bad.<br />
Making changes rarely leads to<br />
a catastrophe, even if your mind<br />
tells you it will. Comfort zones