Happiful September 2020

can help you move forward and
embrace your fear. “Knowing and
naming the difference between
the past and the present is really
important,” she says. “It allows
you to have dual awareness, and
operate from the place in your life
that you are in now, not the past.”
Ask yourself what you’re
actually worried about
What is it that’s holding you
back? Questioning this is really
important, says Iona. “Is it being
unsuccessful? Or people disliking
you? If you know what’s holding
you back, that’s half the battle.
Address and acknowledge your
worries, and let them go.”
Also consider all the benefits of
trying something new – and focus
on the positives. “Our self-esteem
and confidence grows when we get
out and try things,” says Deborah,
adding that we should gently
challenge any inner voices that tell
us differently.
FACE YOUR FEAR
Keen to explore the magic of your
dis-comfort zone? Our experts
share their insight…
Consider whether there’s
a reason you’re scared
While we all worry about not
succeeding in certain areas of our
life, for some this may stem from
an event in our past.
“Be aware of the roots of your
fear,” advises Deborah. “Were you
overly criticised in the past? Was
too much expected of you, and
now only perfection will do? Have
you been painfully humiliated
at some point?” Recognising this
Realise the potential for growth
In Deborah’s opinion, we need to
embrace our edge. This is where
we challenge ourselves, and the
area where we can learn the most.
“This is the place where things can
feel scary and uncertain,” she says.
“And it’s often the place we decide
to back out. But, if we can start to
stay here longer, and tolerate the
feeling of working at our edge, we
have the potential for growth.”
Know the difference between a
potential opportunity, and an
irresponsible risk
Some things really are risky, and
having a fear of failure in this case
is a must. This isn’t just about times >>>
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