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Eensaamheid<br />
Eensaamheid veroorsaak pyn. Maar dit is 'n soort pyn wat jy nie<br />
mooi in woorde kan omskryf nie. Dit is soort van 'n leë rustelose<br />
gevoel dat jy nie goed genoeg is nie en dat niemand werklik vir jou<br />
omgee nie. 'n Gevoel van isolasie, betekenisloosheid, verwerping<br />
en van nikswerd wees.Eensaamheid is 'n baie kragtige emosie. Dit<br />
+<br />
kan lei tot siekte, verslawing, depressie en selfmoord.<br />
Eensaamheid is 'n feit van die lewe en kan enige iemand tref. Dit is<br />
nie net bejaarde of siek mense wat hierdeur geraak word nie -<br />
menige jong en beroemde mens het al 'n slagoffer van<br />
eensaamheid geword.Daar is 'n onderskeid te tref tussen eensaam<br />
wees en alleen wees. Jy kan alleen wees sonder om eensaam te<br />
wees. Maar dan - om die cliché te gebruik - kan jy eensaam wees<br />
in 'n skare van mense.Dit is inderdaad tragies dat in die wêreld<br />
met sy biljoene mense ons vandag waarskynlik meer eensame<br />
mense as ooit te vore het. Mense steek hulle eensaamheid egter<br />
weg met maskers van "dit gaan goed dankie." Ander sal met 'n<br />
dapper glimlag, 'n joviale houding en 'n sosiaal bedrywige agenda<br />
'n beeld van gelukkigheid uitstraal. Maar binne in jou siel waar<br />
niemand sien nie, wroeg die donker geheim van<br />
eensaamheid.Eensaamheid is 'n feit van die lewe. Dit word nie met<br />
groot vertoon aan die wêreld voorgehou nie, maar woed dikwels in<br />
hartseer snikke tussen die vier mure van 'n kamer. Een van die<br />
redes vir eensaamheid in ons moderne tyd is die klem wat op<br />
individualiteit en privaatheid geplaas word. Ons word daagliks<br />
gebombardeer met propaganda om onafhanklik wees. Ek het my<br />
werk en my plek en my salaristjek. My polis en ek sorg vir myself<br />
en ek het nie eintlik iemand anders nodig nie. En dit wat ek op<br />
hoop en wel nog nodig het kan ek koop.Die uiteinde hiervan is net<br />
meer isolasie en eensaamheid.Dit is belangrik dat jy weet dat<br />
eensaamheid 'n menslike emosie is en dat meeste mense dit een<br />
of ander tyd ervaar. Worstel jy met eensaamheid, onthou dan dat<br />
jy nie aan 'n soort siekte of versteurdheid ly nie. Eensaamheid is<br />
iets wat jy kan verander:<br />
Reik uit na mense. Moenie vir ander wag om na jou te kom en<br />
met jou te praat nie. Staan jy op en maak eerste kontak met 'n<br />
ander persoon. Met 'n glimlag of telefoonoproep kan jy reeds 'n<br />
groot verskil maak.<br />
Luister aandagtig na wat iemand sê, vergeet 'n oomblik van<br />
jouself en toon opregte belangstelling en empatie.<br />
Bou goeie verhoudings deur 'n vriend te wees vir iemand anders.<br />
Skakel in by nuwe situasies. Sluit aan by 'n klub of doen vrywillige<br />
werk vir 'n organisasie. Raak betrokke by verenigings en klubs.<br />
Wanneer daar niemand is wat saam met jou kan of wil gaan nie,<br />
gaan dan alleen. Moenie jouself weerhou van geleenthede net<br />
omdat jy alleen is nie. Dit is juis wanneer jy op jou eie inskakel by<br />
'n nuwe situasie of groep dat jy uit die web van eensaamheid<br />
loskom.<br />
Stop om passief te wees en raak aktief.<br />
Moenie emosionele seerkry of traumatiese gebeure van jou<br />
kinderjare of verlede onderdruk nie. Jy moet hiermee deel en 'n<br />
oorwinning oor dit behaal.<br />
Moenie skaam of bang wees om aan te klop vir hulp nie.<br />
Wanneer jy depressief en eensaam voel, praat met iemand wat sal<br />
luister.<br />
Uit bogenoemde kan jy nou vir jou 'n plan saamstel oor hoe jy die<br />
eensaamheid in jou lewe gaan aanspreek. Maar soos enige plan<br />
beteken dit niks indien jy nie werklik oorgaan tot die daad en aksie<br />
nie.<br />
Pasop egter vir die slagyster om jou dag te vul met tientalle<br />
aktiwiteite. Mense met te besige programme probeer soms om van<br />
alleen-wees te vlug. Jy het steeds tye nodig om alleen te wees,<br />
sodat jy in kontak bly met jou eie self, hart en gevoelens.<br />
Eensaamheid kan positiewe waarde hê. Deur die pyn van<br />
eensaamheid leer ek myself beter ken en ontdek ek die diepte van<br />
my eie-ek en menswees. Eensaamheid kan die kreatiewe<br />
inspirasie wees vir selfontdekking en persoonlike groei.Kortom:<br />
eensaamheid kan oorkom en gewen word, en hanteer jy dit reg<br />
ontsluit dit nuwe moontlikhede en potensiaal in jou lewe.<br />
"Onthou altyd in jou eensaamheid: al trap mense nie jou drumpel<br />
deur nie, is die Here altyd by jou. Hy is net 'n gebed ver." -<br />
Lizette Jonker -<br />
REGRETS OF THE DYING<br />
by Bronnie Ware: Blogger, author, songwriter and singer 25<br />
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who<br />
had gone home to die. Some incredibly<br />
The best<br />
special<br />
and<br />
times<br />
most<br />
were shared. I<br />
was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.<br />
People grow a lot when they are faced beautiful with their things own in mortality. the I learnt<br />
never to underestimate someone's world capacity cannot for growth. be seen Some or changes<br />
were phenomenal. Each experienced even touched, a variety of emotions, they must as expected,<br />
denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every<br />
single patient found their peace before be felt they with departed the heart. though, every one of<br />
them.<br />
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do<br />
differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most<br />
common five:<br />
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life<br />
others expected of me<br />
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life<br />
is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many<br />
dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of<br />
their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had<br />
made, or not made.<br />
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the<br />
way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings<br />
a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.<br />
2. I wish I didn't work so hard<br />
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their<br />
children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of<br />
this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female<br />
patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply<br />
regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work<br />
existence.<br />
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it<br />
is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating<br />
more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new<br />
opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.<br />
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings<br />
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others.<br />
As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who<br />
they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to<br />
the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.<br />
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may<br />
initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the<br />
end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that<br />
or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.<br />
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends<br />
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their<br />
dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had<br />
become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships<br />
slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving<br />
friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their<br />
friends when they are dying.<br />
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when<br />
you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall<br />
away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it<br />
is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to<br />
get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though,<br />
they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to<br />
love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks,<br />
love and relationships.<br />
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier<br />
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that<br />
happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits.<br />
The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well<br />
as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and<br />
to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to<br />
laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.<br />
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way<br />
from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long<br />
before you are dying.<br />
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Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose<br />
consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. 21<br />
Choose happiness.<br />
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