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Горизонт (газета) — (Gorizont англ. Horizon ) первая и наиболее влиятельная газета, издающаяся на русском языке в штатеКолорадо, США. Еженедельник, выходит по пятницам, формат Таблоид, 128 цветных и чернобелых страниц, распространяется в городах, составляющих метрополию Денвера (Большой Денвер), и в других населенных пунктах штата Колорадо от графства Саммит до графства Эль—Пасо. Полная электронная версия газеты «Горизонт» доступна в сети Интернет. Подробнее http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gorizont_(newspaper)
Горизонт (газета) — (Gorizont англ. Horizon ) первая и наиболее влиятельная газета, издающаяся на русском языке в штатеКолорадо, США. Еженедельник, выходит по пятницам, формат Таблоид, 128 цветных и чернобелых страниц, распространяется в городах, составляющих метрополию Денвера (Большой Денвер), и в других населенных пунктах штата Колорадо от графства Саммит до графства Эль—Пасо. Полная электронная версия газеты «Горизонт» доступна в сети Интернет. Подробнее http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gorizont_(newspaper)
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RUSSIAN DENVER<br />
Colorado Russian Newspaper published in English 720-436-7613 www.gorizont.com/rd<br />
The Secret to Dating a Busy Partner<br />
Your partner’s full schedule<br />
doesn’t mean they don’t love you.<br />
Keep the romance flowing with<br />
understanding. Here’s the secret<br />
to dating a busy partner.<br />
People often have this notion<br />
that what makes relationships<br />
thrive is always spending<br />
time together. Every day we see<br />
lovestruck duos on social media<br />
who travel, eat, and go on<br />
exotic adventures hand in hand.<br />
They’re all beautiful, but unfortunately,<br />
many couples today live<br />
miles apart and cannot share in<br />
similar activities.<br />
Another common obstacle to<br />
picture-perfect moments such as<br />
these is time itself.<br />
Millennials in particular,<br />
thrive on full schedules. They<br />
chase careers, build businesses,<br />
and transfer to new locations on<br />
a whim. If you’re one of those<br />
people in a relationship with a<br />
perpetually busy person, it’s natural<br />
to feel left out. These emotions<br />
are totally normal, particularly<br />
for individuals who crave a<br />
lot of togetherness and physical<br />
intimacy.<br />
So what do you do when your<br />
partner asks for a night with the<br />
boys? Or what if she cancels your<br />
dinner date because of an unscheduled<br />
board meeting?<br />
The first thing you need to<br />
remember is to NOT let your<br />
time go to waste–use it wisely by<br />
living the full life you want, too!<br />
Here are several suggestions.<br />
Meet-up with friends.<br />
When we first get into a relationship<br />
(especially during the<br />
“honeymoon phase”), we often<br />
forget to hang-out with old<br />
friends. They might be understanding<br />
of our situation, but at<br />
some point, we need to include<br />
them back in our lives to retain<br />
their trust. So if your lover goes<br />
on an unscheduled overtime, call<br />
up a friend and catch up on old<br />
times. Invite them over for tea or<br />
simply chat them up online.<br />
Again: it’s perfectly normal to<br />
feel disappointed at first because<br />
you were expecting them to be<br />
by your side. Just don’t forget<br />
there are other people in your<br />
life who are just as important.<br />
Go out and move.<br />
Sometimes, the answer is as<br />
simple as going out the door. Angry<br />
because your weekend camping<br />
trip is cancelled because of a<br />
board meeting? Was she late for<br />
your Friday Netflix movie marathon?<br />
Walk it off. According to<br />
the Anxiety and Depression Association<br />
of America (ADAA),<br />
even just five minutes of physical<br />
activity is enough to release<br />
endorphins in our body. These<br />
chemicals are<br />
natural painkillers<br />
that reduce<br />
stress and<br />
improve sleep.<br />
Take a quick<br />
jog around the<br />
park or walk<br />
briskly towards<br />
a nearby coffee<br />
shop. You’ll get<br />
your daily dose<br />
of healthy exercise, plus you’ll<br />
feel better, too!<br />
Get back into a hobby or develop<br />
one.<br />
I am in one of those relationships<br />
that presents double the<br />
challenge: not only is my partner<br />
away from me, but we’re both<br />
super busy most of the time.<br />
Believe it or not, what keeps us<br />
close are our individual hobbies<br />
(he’s into keeping aquariums and<br />
I love baking).<br />
Doing stuff that you enjoy–<br />
whether or not it’s the same<br />
with your partner’s–is a great<br />
way to ease off feelings of being<br />
burned out, and keeps us productive.<br />
Sometimes, we’re just<br />
overwhelmed with everything in<br />
our lives (yes, including our relationships).<br />
Our hobbies act as a<br />
healthy way to recover from that,<br />
while providing awesome topics<br />
to talk about.<br />
Keep a journal or blog.<br />
My career usually requires<br />
me to work longer hours. My<br />
boyfriend often comes home<br />
early and waits for me until I can<br />
call. During this time, he likes<br />
to write his novel and then later<br />
tells me his progress. Of course,<br />
you don’t need to resort to writing<br />
full-length pieces, but a simple<br />
journal or online blog should<br />
keep you busy while you wait for<br />
your partner. Write down your<br />
thoughts, fears, date ideas, experiences,<br />
and dreams.<br />
If you want, you could even<br />
share them with the world so<br />
that other people could learn<br />
from you! Speaking of date<br />
ideas…<br />
Plan exciting dates.<br />
That’s right. While your significant<br />
other is busy, use this as<br />
the best opportunity to prepare<br />
surprise date ideas. Go ahead<br />
and scroll through Pinterest<br />
without fear (because they won’t<br />
be looking!). If a birthday or an<br />
anniversary is on its way, use this<br />
time to plan ahead. Create a list<br />
of things you want to do together<br />
but haven’t found the chance to<br />
do so. Then start making calls,<br />
booking rooms, or buying tickets.<br />
Once they’re back from their<br />
alone-time, they’ll be thrilled<br />
with your surprise!<br />
If you don’t keep yourself<br />
preoccupied, you’ll just end up<br />
feeling bad and sulking at home.<br />
Who wants that? Every person<br />
is different, but we each have<br />
our own levels of need for a little<br />
“me-time”. Learn to accept this<br />
and be patient in finding out<br />
what works for both of you.<br />
My boyfriend and I, for instance,<br />
are okay with set schedules<br />
so we have time for each<br />
Does Owning a Pet Make You a Better Date?<br />
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other as well as our hobbies. On<br />
Sunday mornings, I usually let<br />
him write his novel while I experiment<br />
with baking. But by the<br />
afternoon, we should be ready to<br />
spend time together on Skype.<br />
Every couple is unique: and the<br />
fun lies in discovery!<br />
Extend a Little Understanding<br />
There is no secret to lasting<br />
relationships.<br />
Sometimes, plans change.<br />
People change. You may feel<br />
frustrated now because your<br />
lover wasn’t so busy before. Or<br />
you’re probably wondering why<br />
she seems to be taking up too<br />
much time away from you. These<br />
are to be expected in relationships–especially<br />
long-term ones.<br />
However, if you’re really in love,<br />
you would understand.<br />
Clich? as it may sound, but<br />
this is when communication and<br />
an open mind becomes vital.<br />
Talk to them: what are their priorities<br />
now? Do they still intend<br />
to include you in their future?<br />
What are their plans? If they love<br />
you just as much, they would<br />
be willing to compromise with<br />
you so the relationship remains<br />
stable. If they explain that they’re<br />
aiming for a better career or that<br />
they’ll be busy due to business,<br />
then be understanding.<br />
Think about it: if you were in<br />
their shoes, wouldn’t you want to<br />
be understood in the same way?<br />
Perhaps the best gift we could give<br />
someone, is the confidence that<br />
we’ll always be there for them–no<br />
matter what they choose.<br />
By: Lisa Kaplan Gordon<br />
When I was dating Greg,<br />
meeting the pets was a big step<br />
in our courtship. I had two cats,<br />
Fonzie and Blaze, and he had a<br />
5-year-old cocker spaniel, Sable.<br />
Greg met the cats when he<br />
picked me up for our first date,<br />
and they got along fine, even<br />
though he wasn’t a cat person.<br />
But when he took me home to<br />
meet his dog three dates later,<br />
things didn’t go as smoothly.<br />
I knew how much Sable meant<br />
to Greg–he won custody during<br />
his divorce–and I wanted to like<br />
the dog and have her like me. But<br />
when I offered to take Sable for a<br />
walk as Greg made dinner–I like<br />
guys who cook–the pooch wasn’t<br />
so sure.<br />
As soon as we walked down<br />
the steps, she started glancing<br />
backwards, wondering if her dad<br />
would be coming, too. When we<br />
were halfway down the block,<br />
Sable realized she was walking<br />
with a stranger and<br />
reversed course. No<br />
amount of coaxing<br />
and cooing could<br />
stem her panic. So,<br />
we returned home<br />
about 5 minutes after<br />
we started.<br />
“What happened?”<br />
asked<br />
Greg, anxious that<br />
this new woman, whom he liked,<br />
was not hitting it off with this<br />
dog, whom he loved.<br />
“She wants her Dad,” I said,<br />
trying not to show how freaked<br />
out I was at this unsuccessful<br />
first dog date.<br />
My concern, it turns out, was<br />
well-founded. Researchers say<br />
that pets, increasingly considered<br />
family members, are becoming<br />
relationship barometers.<br />
A recent study published in Anthrozoos<br />
journal showed that<br />
women, more than men, pay<br />
attention to the way a date interacts<br />
with her pet.<br />
“Women seemed to rely upon<br />
cues of how a partner interacted<br />
with a pet more than did<br />
men in determining whether or<br />
not the prospective partner was<br />
worth dating or considering for<br />
a longer-term relationship,”? the<br />
study found.<br />
Here are more conclusions of<br />
the pet-dating study conducted<br />
4 Scientifically Proven Tips to Improve Your Happiness<br />
by lead researcher Peter B. Gray<br />
of the University of Nevada.<br />
· Dogs are better than<br />
cats for assessing a date’s caregiving<br />
abilities.<br />
· Men, more than women,<br />
use a pet to attract a potential<br />
date.<br />
· Women, more than<br />
men, are attracted to someone<br />
because they have a pet.<br />
· Both men and women<br />
in equal numbers have used a pet<br />
as an excuse to leave a bad date<br />
early.<br />
By the time Greg proposed,<br />
Sable and I had became good<br />
pals–and the cats tolerated their<br />
new dog sibling as well.<br />
By: Jordyn Cormier<br />
Everyone wants to be happy<br />
in their lives, but it isn’t always<br />
easy. If you’re looking for some<br />
foolproof ways to improve your<br />
life, here are 4 scientific tips on<br />
how to boost happiness, starting<br />
in your brain.<br />
Experience gratitude. Studies<br />
have shown time and time again<br />
that expressing gratitude and<br />
humility for the good qualities in<br />
your life can make you happier<br />
on a chemical level. Gratitude<br />
stimulates the brain to create<br />
dopamine and feel-good neurotransmitter,<br />
serotonin.<br />
Express your emotions.<br />
Whether it’s through verbal language,<br />
writing or some other<br />
form of art, expressing what<br />
your innermost feelings are can<br />
have an instant effect on your<br />
life outlook. Often, our deepest<br />
emotions can get blurred while<br />
they’re still whirling around<br />
in our minds. Expressing your<br />
emotions allows you to put everything<br />
into perspective.<br />
Give up perfection. While<br />
worrying about your problems<br />
can seem productive– at least it’s<br />
on your mind, right?– it gets you<br />
nowhere in the long run. Instead<br />
of struggling and stressing over<br />
making the best decision possible,<br />
you are far better off making<br />
any decision rather than worrying<br />
over it. Making a decision<br />
moves you forwardAn active decision<br />
also increases dopamine<br />
production, meaning it actually<br />
makes you happier, regardless of<br />
what you have decided.<br />
Enjoy human touch. Human<br />
contact is a powerful force in the<br />
body. It can boost the immune<br />
system, increase trust, improve<br />
learning and– you guessed it–<br />
boost your happiness and wellbeing.<br />
Human touch like a hug<br />
releases oxytocin in the brain,<br />
which actually works to facilitate<br />
intimacy and social bonding.<br />
Feeling like you have a network<br />
of trustworthy people around<br />
you can do wonders to improve<br />
your happiness. Go for long<br />
hugs, if appropriate.<br />
Being happy starts in the brain.<br />
By being true to yourself and<br />
others, you can live a happier<br />
life, accompanied by other great<br />
side effects– like stronger social<br />
connections, stronger feelings of<br />
self-worth and a more positive<br />
outlook on life.