You Are Not Book.indb - Stephen H. Wolinsky Ph. D.

CHApTER 12
realizing death
THe MOsT dIssOCIATed exPerIeNCe OF All
Acknowledging, confronting, and realizing the concept
of death and the resistance to the concept of death
are imperative in order to “go beyond” all the afterdeath
resistance which manifests death theories called religious
metaphysics, that range from Heaven and Hell to reincarnation.
For some existential philosophers, Martin Heidegger
for one, emphasizes that in order to own or be-being or
return to being, death must be absorbed and integrated.
This means that not only the concept of death itself, the
death concepts around the concept of death, along with the
resistances to NOT being, and the feeling of fear and dread,
must be looked at.
For example, how many people have considered that shortly
after death, nobody would even remember you, and it would
be like you never were? What concepts does that bring up?
This is what needs to be addressed and dismantled, so
that death can be seen for what it is, a concept within the
mirage.
MY fRiEnD, CHRiSTiAn
When my dear friend, Christian, died, at first “my”
mirage body-mind felt its grief response.
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