You Are Not Book.indb - Stephen H. Wolinsky Ph. D.

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memory, we are separating memory and I am’s.
We are separating memory-of-daughter in order
to prove that she existed just as you existed. If
all of these were separate concepts, made of the
same consciousness, then . . . ?
Student: It is such a relief, it is just like all the tension in
my body just goes out. I could be like a puddle
on the ground.
Wolinsky: Now, if all of these were just concepts being the
same consciousness, including the “awarer” of all
of this, and it had nothing to do with anything,
then . . . ?
Student: Just, there is a feeling of joy that I am experiencing
now, like a joy in it, letting it all just kind of
go and I feel a lot of tears about it, maybe there
has been a fear about letting it all go, somehow,
I have to hang on to it and I don’t know why
I feel like crying and letting it all go. I think I
have been holding myself together a lot.
Wolinsky: Would you be willing to allow the concept called
“my” consciousness to just fall apart?
Student: Right, just to fall apart. Yes, I have to hold myself
together a lot . . . (crying).
Wolinsky: So notice how the concept called “my” consciousness
holds itself solid.
Student: To not feel, not to feel what I am feeling.
Wolinsky: See if you can allow the concept called “my”
consciousness to just shatter. So, if this concept
called “my” consciousness were to shatter into
pieces, what would be so bad about that?