happiful september 2021

true story
We talked about how I never had a chance to
eulogise my parents, my jealousy about never
having a normal childhood, the pain of losing
my family, and how the fallout from the estate
battle left the good memories tarnished.
My therapist helped me open up and face
problems I didn’t know I had. In turn, I began
to embrace vulnerability; I felt empowered
each time I let my guard down. I found the
strength to take the upper hand with my eating
disorder, to cope with the pain I buried away. I
reconnected with the parts of me I always loved.
I remembered who I was before life’s vicious
attacks commenced.
I’ve always enjoyed writing, and found this as
my outlet to speak my truths. Through writing,
I learned that ‘the man of the house’ can show
vulnerability. That does not equal weakness
but, instead, it shows love for himself and those
around him. I can be honest with myself now,
with my husband and with my friends. I broke
free from the chains of my eating disorder, my
insecurities, and the hurtful memories.
Vulnerability is defined as the state of being
exposed to the possibility of being attacked or
harmed, either physically or emotionally. All
along, I was the one doing the attacking and
harm to myself by not allowing myself to share
my struggles. I am now on a mission to help
others live their best lives, just like I am finally
doing after two decades of inner hell.
OUR EXPERT SAYS
Jason’s inspirational story provides insight into
how difficult life events at an early age
can have a damaging impacting our self-esteem.
The trauma Jason experienced was evidently
very challenging, and he used alcohol to cope.
However, over time, with a supportive husband
and access to therapy, Jason was able to
work through his past and challenge the
stigma of what it means be a man.
Jason is living proof that men
can be vulnerable, and this is a
true sign of strength.
Rav Sekhon | BA MA MBACP (Accred)
Counsellor and psychotherapist
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