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Introvert Alert! Extrovert Alert!<br />
If you want lunch one-on-one with<br />
an extrovert, make that clear! She<br />
is as likely as not to spontaneously<br />
bring someone else along.<br />
Refrain from asking an extrovert a<br />
simple, yet optional, question when<br />
under deadline. You may be treated<br />
to a lengthy exposition and have no<br />
one to blame but yourself.<br />
Perhaps you have a colleague who<br />
expresses a strong opinion only to<br />
completely discount it the next day.<br />
Rather than label that person as<br />
unreliable, recognize he may have<br />
simply been speaking to discern his<br />
true opinion.<br />
MUSIC TO MY EARS<br />
Silence from an introvert does not<br />
convey dislike <strong>of</strong> an idea. She could<br />
be thinking it over.<br />
When faced with a quiet person,<br />
do not ask, “What’s his problem?”<br />
You may be in the presence <strong>of</strong> an<br />
introvert who is focused inward and<br />
simply doesn’t have anything to say<br />
at the moment.<br />
Why does your colleague stick so<br />
stubbornly to his opinions? Because<br />
introverts ponder and commit to<br />
ideas before speaking, it takes more<br />
eff ort to change their minds. Provide<br />
time to recalibrate before requesting<br />
a response.<br />
Here is an example from my own sordid past. Back in college, the fi rst<br />
extracurricular activity I pursued was becoming a disc jockey (DJ)<br />
on the campus radio station. I love music and thought being a radio<br />
DJ would be a great release from college studies. You may foolishly<br />
believe DJ’ing is for extroverts. If so, it’s likely that you’ve never been<br />
inside a college radio station transmission room. You sit all alone<br />
for two- to four-hour shift s and play music. Th ere is a vague sense <strong>of</strong><br />
others listening to the music remotely, but you exist in your own litt le<br />
universe, a small booth <strong>of</strong> music, for an extended period <strong>of</strong> time. You<br />
have plenty <strong>of</strong> time during the songs to plan on-air patt er between<br />
sets, and you are only speaking into a microphone. For an introvert<br />
who also derives energy from music, this was a haven. Even when I<br />
carried the weight <strong>of</strong> the world—or at least the weight <strong>of</strong> the campus<br />
library—in with me, I always left revitalized.<br />
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