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mation provides communication cues that allow you to gather a tremendous<br />
amount <strong>of</strong> data about others while networking.<br />
Closed-ended questions require only a yes or no response. Openended<br />
questions maximize information. Consider replacing “Do you<br />
like your work?” with “What do you like most about your work?” Also,<br />
why tends to put the responder on the defensive. Whenever possible,<br />
replace why with how or what. Consider replacing “Why did you leave<br />
your job?” with “What led you to make a career change?”<br />
Th oughtful questions build rapport. Refl ect on a time you met someone<br />
and walked away with a positive impression. Most likely, she demonstrated<br />
an interest in you. Actively listening demonstrates an interest<br />
in others—a slam-dunk to making a good impression yourself.<br />
I overheard the following description <strong>of</strong> a colleague: “She is reserved,<br />
but has a great deal <strong>of</strong> depth within her.” I noticed the but. As if it is<br />
contradictory for a reserved person to have depth. I have noticed that<br />
people who initially seem reserved eventually reveal intriguing backgrounds,<br />
talents, and personalities.<br />
Dusty Old Rule #3:<br />
Maximize Time with Others (Party)<br />
Th is advice plays directly into the fi rst precondition for a visa to Extroland:<br />
be social. Extroverts revive their energy by spending lots <strong>of</strong> time<br />
with lots <strong>of</strong> people on a regular basis.<br />
In a conversation with an extrovert, I was surprised to hear her<br />
say she enjoyed taking day trips alone. When I asked for details, she<br />
responded, “Sure. I just get on the tour bus and spend the rest <strong>of</strong> the<br />
day chatt ing with whomever happens to be seated next to me. It’s<br />
great!”<br />
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