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Folding your opposite arm on top is easier for some people than<br />
others. An ambidextrous person may have no diffi culty at all with this<br />
exercise. Similarly, a centrovert, someone who borders between introvert<br />
and extrovert, will fi nd it relatively easy to fl ex his style. It does<br />
not take much eff ort for a centrovert to relate to or speak the same<br />
language as an extrovert. An introvert on the far end <strong>of</strong> the spectrum<br />
needs to put more eff ort into fl exing her style.<br />
Remember that temperament indicates one’s preference, not<br />
one’s ability. Another similarity between this experiment and fl exing<br />
your communication style is that it gets easier. If fl exing your style<br />
matt ers enough to you, you can learn to fold your opposite arm on<br />
top—literally and fi guratively.<br />
84 NETWORKING FOR PEOPLE WHO HATE NETWORKING<br />
Notes From the Field<br />
Flex for Success<br />
Tanya is a highly-regarded executive vice president in a Fortune 100<br />
company. She has remained loyal to her company, working her way<br />
steadily and comfortably up the corporate ladder. During an economic<br />
downturn, however, the company made it clear that regardless<br />
<strong>of</strong> one’s role, all executives were expected to bring in business. Tanya<br />
had always been uncomfortable soliciting business and had never done so in the past.<br />
She decided to just continue her current path <strong>of</strong> high performance in her normal role.<br />
As months passed she began to recognize the necessity <strong>of</strong> facing her reluctance to<br />
network and sell services. Did she force herself to double her social network, join in<br />
on all <strong>of</strong>fi ce socializing, start eating lunch with colleagues, and attend weekly industry<br />
events? No.<br />
Her carefully executed strategy was a direct departure from traditional networking<br />
wisdom. She methodically reviewed her contacts, selecting a single person to approach;<br />
a graduate school friend, Mark. She spoke with Mark one-on-one and mentioned that<br />
it would mean a lot to her to arrange a meeting to discuss collaboration between their<br />
two businesses. She realized she sincerely believed Mark would also benefi t from the<br />
alliance, and this conviction came across in the meeting.<br />
Upon reporting her progress to the executive team, she was met with astonishment.<br />
It turned out that for years her company had wanted to forge a relationship with<br />
Mark’s company and could never get in the door. A few months later her eff ort paid<br />
<strong>of</strong>f far beyond any expectations. Multimillion-dollar contracts were in place, and she is<br />
certain beyond a doubt this has been her single biggest contribution to the company in<br />
twenty-three years.