The Veteran Supported Education Service Treatment Manual: VetSEd
The Veteran Supported Education Service Treatment Manual: VetSEd
The Veteran Supported Education Service Treatment Manual: VetSEd
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Minimal encouragement – Short phrases to keep a conversation going: ―Tell me<br />
more,‖ ―I see,‖ ―Really?‖ ―Go on.‖<br />
Infrequent questions – Using open-ended questions when possible to offer the<br />
speaker an opportunity to share as much information as s/he desires: ―What<br />
happened when you visited that school? ―<br />
Attentive silence – Gives the speaker time to think<br />
Reflecting skills helps the speaker to clarify his/her communication so that s/he can get<br />
his/her meaning across. To practice reflective listening is to serve as a mirror for the<br />
person speaking. You can do this by:<br />
Paraphrasing – Restate what the speaker has said in your own words<br />
Reflecting feelings – Listen for feeling words and infer feelings from the overall<br />
content<br />
Reflecting meanings – Use the ―You feel _________ because<br />
formula to pair feelings with message content.<br />
________‖<br />
Summarizing – Occasionally summarize the flow of conversation by saying for<br />
example: ―One theme you come back to is...‖ or ―Let's review the ground we've<br />
covered so far,‖ or ―As I‘ve been listening, your main concerns seem to be…‖<br />
Exercise 1<br />
Active Listening 1. Get a partner and have a 2 minute discussion about going to school. 1<br />
person is the listener and the other person is the speaker. During this discussion, the<br />
listener should use attending, following, and reflecting skills from above. Have the<br />
speaker repeat the discussion so that the listener tries out each of these active listening<br />
techniques. Switch roles and repeat. <strong>The</strong> goal of this exercise is to practice using active<br />
listening skills and see how it influences the flow of a discussion.<br />
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